A parent’s prayer for their children: Unbreakable bond that lasts Long after their parents are gone. ❤ Who is Sue Tiong? I’m a Mother first before I am a Wife and a Daughter and a sister and a friend. I am a woman in my own right. These do get different priorities at different time in life but they will always be my TOP 6. ❤ My career comes in 7th. Yes it may seem too slow or Too fast. You may not be able to fathom this woman called Sue Tiong. #SueTiong is a Mother and wife first, and a woman in her own right and doesn’t fit into any boxes or stereotype. 💃 I get women who asked me don’t I miss my kids when I travel for my career. I used to feel extreme and deep GUILT when I get these remarks. I feel judged. 😱 And I do get looks of pity from men when they asked me who takes care of my kids when I travel; the answer is my darling hubby. They pity my hubby for having me as a Wife. 🤷🏼♀️ I used to feel an extreme sense of being irresponsible and I even felt I was worthless as a mother and a Wife... as a Daughter who’s always absent and a Sister and Friend who’s only available online and never in person. The feeling of GUILT and Shame ate into my very core and the feeling isn’t something I’d like to revisit anytime soon. I wouldn’t even wish it upon my enemy. THE BREAKTHROUGH HAPPENED WHEN I REALISED: ❤ My kids still love me no matter what. ❤ My Husband still supports and loves me no matter what. ❤ My parents and siblings and friends still give me their full blessings regardless of what I decide to do as Long as I am happy and comfortable (I take care of my well-being) - My Father named me Comfortable and Happy as the meaning of my Chinese name. Oh yes my name is still shortish, three syllables including my surname Tiong. There, I do have a middle name Yii. It means happy. Today I reclaim my birth right to be happy: I’ve left out the Happy Joyful word from my name for more than a decade. Time to reclaim it. Time to be truly happy. ⭐ I shall be happy and joyful and not let others’ opinion of me taint my feelings towards what I already know very well is my calling and destiny. I have no right to judge anyone as I don’t live your life. If I am judged oh well it isn’t your life. And your opinion of me doesn’t pay the bills. 😊 May everyone find inner peace and joy. 🙏🏻❤
This is my first blog post for the New Year. In my part of the world it is already dawn of the New Year of 2018, the sun is rising and yet the rain poured. It has been raining for three days and my kids hardly had any water play time in our family vacation but they are not complaining... Ah the joys of being little human beings. The innocence and how simple they think. Becoming a parent made me reflect a lot. Why do kids need to rebel and do the complete opposite of what you tell them to do? It is to exert their independence and to find the strength in saying NO. The #MeToo campaign brought on a lot of confessions and a lot of victims, men and women and girls and boys all stood up and shared. In September 2017, three unlikely women formed a trio that became the basis of Project Cahaya -means Light in the Malay language. Our target is the youth, especially those who are below age 12. Call them children, call them kids, they are our youth, the light of hope for the future of our world.
She’s judged, she’s made to feel that she’s to be blamed for her own rape by the very adult who was supposed to protect her and keep her safe. She’s shamed and labelled a slut. She’s only 12.Project Cahaya aims to provide a safe space for the children to express themselves and learn to trust themselves to heal and to trust the world again. These children are supposed to be protected and yet for some, fate and the adults around them betrayed that very early in their lives. If this makes you feel very uncomfortable, I am sorry. What I am sharing; it is very real. Child abuse happens throughout the world, many suffering in silence. Many with no voice; many don’t even have a choice to say No or walk away. https://youtu.be/M9BNoNFKCBI This is some heavy post for a brand new year but while we celebrate it is also apt to remember those who are not as fortunate as we are, if we don’t do anything about it, life goes on and nothing change. Let’s take a look at the actions taken by females and even males around the world in the last century. Is it all muscles and grit and all hard to be strong? Do we need to break the glass ceiling all the time and have our hands and body bleed each time we fight to break the glass ceiling? Not only women but humans in general and the existing discrimination in place. Women, and also the minority, especially in the last 100 years felt a need to emulate men in order to stand up for themselves, however is masculinity the only way to be strong? Is it a battle or a competition to see who is stronger? Why can’t we have mutual respect regardless of who we are? What does strength mean to you? S-T-R-E-N-G-T-H For me it means grace in adversity and the ability to gracefully exit when you want to. Strength is in the power to say No, and Enough, and move on. HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE, may the world be the best that it can ever be in 2018 and beyond. ❤️ All pictures and photographs are credited to Pixabay and my personal collection.
AND THEN WHAT? Been awhile.... Since Sue is writing again, expect this to be pretty Long. Popcorns ready. 😂 I had five back to back conference calls today including many conversations this evening at a business networking event. Connected with a few of them and I realised that ultimately, the theme is the same. "What next after you have fame, wealth, fortune?" You have food on the table, a roof over your head, you are mobile and can get around, you have a reputation, strong presence, a family, a career, SUCCESS, in other words you want for nothing, so what is next? If you do business only for money, after awhile all you will get is money and only money. There will be a void inside that money can't fill up. You will find that money cannot take away your misery, at least not permanently. You will crave for the fastest newest edition of your gadgets, your luxury cars, I am not one for cars but I am guilty of that for my phones, I have more than 4 phones, guilty as charged. I justify them with the lamest reasons, like I need to be connected all the time, it is a false need, I survived 12 days without my phone at my silent retreat and I didn't die 😂. You may indulge in intoxicants or crave for the high that alcohol or recreational drugs provide, you escape that void inside for awhile and then what? That is only a quick fix, or is it really a fix or a plaster over an infected open wound? Deep inside there is a longing to cry out loud or just to get someone to truly understand the pain you feel inside... what is this void inside, why do I keep reverting to my old thinking habits that makes me seem like a hamster on the wheel, the only problem is... the wheel is turning but the hamster has passed out. In this chase for more and MORE AND MORE, after you have more, you want more. The rush of adrenaline, the high you get when you are elated, the blood rushing to your head when you are excited. And then the crash comes... AND THEN WHAT. There was a time when I feel like I was just going through the motion, I knew I had to keep moving or else I will be consumed by the void. The fear to face the void was very true. I felt like escaping, like you are on the run and you are only running from your own shadow. Inside, deep inside, you feel so tired and you question everything that you know and you doubt everything and everyone you know. Oh yes, broken business partnerships, death of friendships and relationship, we have our own day to day struggles. Then I realised I was just running away from my own shadow. My fear was totally unfounded. And when I talk to people, and I look into their eyes, I see me, I see my fear, I see my hope, we are all the same. We have the same feelings. We are all humans. Money buys happiness but it cannot bring you true joy and peace. Happiness is good. Joy is deep. Peace is one thing many with money is lacking nowadays. I had a glimpse of inner peace earlier this month when I was a nobody and only a number on the list and not talking to anyone of the 100 over people... It was not exactly a holiday, it was a break with hard work, working to face my inner demons and fulfilling my commitment to stay the entire 10 days. It was the best proudest achievement of mine so far, for staying on and for making sure I completed the strict regime right till the end, I will go again next year. ❤️ For those of you who are wondering what I am talking about, check out this link: https://www.dhamma.org/en/index Oh don't get me wrong, I am not going to give up life as I know it or sell off all my businesses and become a recluse or a nun. AND NOW WHAT? I finally found some peace. And my heart is bursting with joy and love, that I want to share this with anyone who is looking for some peace, joy and love. And to truly smile from the heart, that feeling is simply amazing. 🙏🏻😊❤️ Something is brewing, something beautiful, something which aims to spread the art of living in peace and blending harmoniously with our pursuit of wealth. Now that is exciting! I have decided not to upgrade my phone for the next one year because I HAVE ENOUGH, and I have all that matters now. And I choose not to let the little voice of doubt inside take over my decisions. I AM NOT A BAD MOTHER FOR LEAVING my children while I travel. Whatever that I do is with them in mind. Just because you cannot understand why I can't do it your way doesn't mean that my way is wrong. Yes, I finally found peace because my biggest obstacle is my definition of being a good Mother. I cannot be the perfect Mother, I can only be a good Mother who is happy and at peace. I truly am at peace now and I am happy. ❤️ Once my energy shifted, the people around me shifted as well. Some got drawn closer, some seemed to be repelled and backed off and some totally exited my life. The only permanent thing in life is CHANGE. The only definite thing in life is DEATH. The only chance we have is NOW. So live in the moment. I CHOOSE ME. I choose to continue being me. I shall help whoever I want and I shall act on my gut feelings and intuition/6th sense whatever you call it; it has served me well over the years. As I enter my late 30s getting closer to 40, I am Glad all the pain happened when they did and all the paths I took led me to right where I am now which is exactly where I needed to be. On the 10th Anniversary of your death my precious baby, I can finally let you go... my angel. My firstborn who didn't even breathe even one gasp of air. You healed me physically and I allowed myself to grieve for you for 10 years like a living dead. I am ready to let you go now my precious little angel. I knew you can't make it today before you finally left my body 2 weeks later, call it a mother's instinct. Thank you for coming into my life no matter how brief. I release all the guilt that I am a bad Mother for not being able to allow you to grow and live. I release you now my baby. I am finally at peace. ❤️ This blog post is dedicated to all women and men who have experienced the loss of a loved one in any way at all and also to all the human beings who feel that there is more to life than just birth, and money and death. May we all find inner peace and true joy within.
I am a very patriotic person. I act like a man in my speedy decisions. However as a woman, I am all mushy with a marshmallow heart. Hence it took me awhile to 'digest' this quote from Virginia Wolfe. Only when I turn on the 'woman' mode could I fully delve into the profound meaning of being a woman with the whole world as her country. ❤️ As this Sue Tiong's writing, expect a pretty long read ahead. 🙏🏻😘 This is my take on this. My own interpretation and not what Virginia Wolfe meant. ❤️ As a woman, especially as a mature woman, and risking me appearing like a feminist, a woman just want the whole world to just get along, be at peace, loving and caring, no more war, husbands come home to a warm home with food served on the table, kids and children grow up in a very conducive environment where they get basic education, basic hygiene, all the basic necessities, parents coexist in harmony, I didn't say stay together or don't divorce sometimes separation is inevitable but we can still be civil about it. Don't get me started on the negatives and the bad and ugly of this world. Isn't it too much already?
Instead let me bring your attention to my own experience where it doesn't matter which country or which flag you fly, ultimately everyone is the same. Some beg to differ saying we don't operate the same way we have different cultures we speak different languages. Yes you are right. And when you choose to see that humans are the same, you are right too. I may be an anomaly but hear me out, bear with me as I type this out. I grew up as the only girl of Chinese descent in my class for a whole 6 years in the same school. My playmates are of different tones of brown and yellow and yet we still play (and cry and made up almost immediately). When I scraped my knee I bleed, so did the other kids. Our blood is red. It's the same. And now fast forward 30 years my son is playing with a group of strangers in the playground of various ethnicities. He doesn't choose their colour he doesn't cringe at someone different than him. He's emulating me at the tender age of 4. Bless him. I plan to tell him to stay that way for as long as possible and be aware other people may judge us or react differently but that doesn't meant you have to react the same way.As a mother and a woman, I truly believe I don't need to be divided or take sides on which country is better than the other. The world is truly one big country. The universe is one big home for all of us. *Peace* #SueTiong
When I crash, my energy level takes a sudden dip the lethargy makes me so exhausted I even get tired I don't wish to speak or even hold a conversation, I guess the extrovert in me needs a holiday sometimes too and retreat inside so I think that qualifies me as an ambivert? I have to remind myself that "Whatever that happens it must be good". My dad was hospitalised on the day I was flying off to South Africa. I did not announce that anywhere including on Facebook where I am most active on because that is personal and that is private. Despite my seemingly open profile across the World Wide Web, I do have internal filter and you think you know me but really there are more layers to me that you need to peel off and see me for who I truly am. So unless you know me well, refrain from judging too much please. Humans are funny sometimes. The moment they see I own businesses and that I am a serial entrepreneur globe trotting from the USA to South Africa and I regularly ply between two countries to conduct training and workshop in Asia where I am based in, they automatically assume I have it easy and I lead a comfortable life and some even started begging. Yes, begging, and demanding and even extortion. I have had to lodge police reports before but that won't stop me from doing what I put my heart into and I shall continue to do it well and strive for excellence.
- Just because I am the founder of a social enterprise called Millionairemom Asia does NOT mean I can give away cash for free. A social enterprise means NO Donation. The beneficiary/recipient under Millionairemom Asia are all required to commit long term and they needed to pull their weight and do their part and if that is not clear - WORK AND PUT IN EFFORT - bekerja keras untuk menjana pendapatan in Bahasa Malaysia.
- Just because I own many businesses and partner with like-minded individuals from many different countries does NOT mean I can be YOUR mouthpiece to curry favour from my partners and even my business networks. You build your own connection and I am not paid to speak on your behalf with someone else. I mind my own business. Yes I am a connector but once the introduction has been made you are on your own. If you didn't make it into my Personal Recommendation Album on my Facebook profile I needed more time and more conviction before I will vouch and die protecting your brand. Loyalty is not to be taken lightly if you get what I mean.
- I literally die a little, yes a part of me die each time I leave home to fly and live the high flyer life where you see me smiling in my pictures. I am a mother and a wife and my babies are born in 2013 and 2016, so you do the Maths and you will see how young they are. I know they are in good care and hubby is a hands on father but each time and yes EACH and Every single moment I am away from them I miss them so much. You can't have your cake and eat it too. I have to learn to forgive myself and be less harsh on myself: At this point in time I choose to fly to pursue my dreams to be a role model to my two babies so they will know the important lesson that self achievement for the greater good will not have to stop and "Children are not excuses, They are your reason to work harder." You are not in my situation so save some for yourself.
- I do sleep and I do rest and I don't exactly need to inform the world when I am exactly working and when I am not. Even hubby does not need to know the specifics. Do I even need to announce when I am about to make love? Do I even need to take pictures of my baby's poo-soiled diapers? Do I even need to share all that you are curious about? To what end? Will that information save the world or save a life or contribute to the betterment of the world in the long run? No? Then quit the entitled attitude to my private life.
- I strongly believe in engaging a coach, NOT mentor. Mentors can be cheaper or even free and you can have a mentor for life but you may not be held accountable to see things through. I have been blessed to have excellent coaches including Coach Cherie Eilertsen from JT Foxx Organization and Now I am looking forward to my one full day on-site coaching with Coach Joey Falcone also from JT Foxx Org.
- Do these coaching sessions cost me a lot of money? Yes definitely, if you pay peanuts you get monkeys you get what I am saying? What you pay for is what you get.
- Have I gotten back the money spent? Yes and many times over including the inmeasurable benefits from the body soul and mind level which lends to a more harmonious relationship with family and friends and at work and that makes me an even nicer and more peaceful person.
- Is JT Foxx a scam? Not for me. It depends on how much are you willing to invest in yourself in terms of money and effort. Giving time to work on something is a form of investment because while you can recoup money, you cannot get back time. That is why I am rushing and doing so much while my kids are still small, to plant the seeds which I hope will bloom into a beautiful garden by the time they are in school and I can lie back and enjoy the view.
Speaking of rest, whenever I feel high-strung I will turn to my baby girl and smell her pretty little head or if she is sleeping I can't help but smile looking at her peaceful face like an angel when she is deep asleep.
So yeah, sleep like a baby and take a rest when you are tired but Never ever Quit doing what you have already set out to do.May the new year of 2017 be an even better year for everyone. I know 2016 has been a spectacular year which is so transformational on all levels I am so grateful to everyone whom I connected with, yeah including the haters, haters will hate, so that's inevitable and I need to be nonchalant about it I guess, we are all still a work in progress.
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When you come to a certain point in life where others perceive that you have reached a certain status higher than theirs, you make suddenly get cold stares from formerly close friends, snide remarks or even outright jealousy thrown at your direction. So what gives? We cannot control what others think and how they react so take this with a pinch of salt and learn to leave some of these negative people behind. Don't fall into the trap where you are pulled back down by these people. I feel that this quote is apt to know what we should adopt in this situation. "You have to remember something: EVERYBODY PITIES THE WEAK, JEALOUSY YOU HAVE TO EARN" ~ Arnold Schwarzenegger