Great Things Never Came from Comfort Zones

Great Things Never Came From Comfort Zones
2019 is set to be a year of plunging us into very uncomfortable situations and the tests that will follow are bound to stretch our limits beyond what we experienced before. Change is the only constant. Embrace changes and go with the flow.  www.MeetSueTiong.com  

Importance of Keeping a Supportive Network

It is very important to keep a supportive network of people around you. When times got tough and I felt like quitting it takes just one word to make or break me. I choose to hang on to any morsel of support I could get when I was faced with challenges, when I felt like giving up and it was just too hard to continue, life goes on with or without me, with or without my contribution, it is so easy to succumb to pressure and choose to
Supportive Network Is Essential to Keep the Fire Within Burning
believe the naysayers or the “words of logic” spoken by those who said those words out of misguided concern without really knowing what keeps your fire burning inside. ”The only person who makes you feel negative is YOU.” Thank you Pooja Rajan for reminding me this today. 💕🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️ With great gratitude. I am reminded again and again of just how much blessed I am. I choose to not feel like victim and I allow myself to step into my full power right now. Thank you to every person who touched my life, in every way, even those who provoked negative thoughts and reactions from me, we only learn when there is a curve, not when we drive on a straight road. I am a better person thanks to Life’s lessons.
Help me stand strong
Life has been a great compassionate teacher to me. I am who I am today, a woman who is so powerful I can do whatever I want anytime I want to if I put my mind and heart to it, I know that, but that doesn’t mean I don’t need reminder from time to time, my deepest gratitude to everyone who supported me from birth till now, my family and friends and of course that includes my siblings, parents, relatives and friends and most importantly the one closest to me now - my Husband Lee Chong Siang Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

The Buck Stops Here Now

I feel that many adults (me included) are suffering from some form of depression or childhood trauma, which results in some undesirable things that we do. 
Depression - How a child’s mental health is affecting adulthood
Now, now don’t get me wrong. It’s nothing serious although in some cases the cases are really serious. It’s day to day “normal” thing. Like “Don’t speak, a child is supposed to be seen not heard”, and the child learns to shut up and fears to speak or express feelings to anyone, which resulted in the basis of dysfunctional future relationships because I truly believe in the importance of sharing and speaking and expressing our feelings and creating a safer space for everyone in the relationship to reciprocate the sharing. 
Understanding how childhood trauma affects adulthood is of utmost importance
So when I encounter such adults in life, I see myself in them. I learned not to take the “abuse” or hurtful remarks or action against me as “personal” by taking this approach to see an aspect of myself in them. Internalising it to not take It personally, if that makes sense.
I see a little child inside of that person. The child as per the picture below. 
How to nurture a child’s mental health
A child who needs validation, needs a safe space just to be, needs a safe space to tell the truth even though the truth hurts, and a safe space to make mistakes and not be judged. 
Every human being has a little child inside that just wants to be heard, loved and feel safe.
I am NOT condoning the wrong and the hurt and harm these people may have caused, if they killed someone they need to be judged by court and face legal consequences, if they steal then they must return whatever they stole and pay for it with legal consequences... I am writing this for YOU. Yes You and Me. People who were “victims”. I use the past tense “were”.
Break Free
We were victims. We ARE no longer victims now. It is our choice to walk away from our past with our Chin high up. Not with boastful pride but with dignified elegance, with GRACE.  When we don’t resort to wanting to hurt the other person back, we break the cycle of “you hurt me, I hurt you back, you hurt me even more, I hurt you back even more, etc”. The BUCK STOPS HERE.    AND IT STOPS NOW WITH ME. 
Love really makes the world go round
All of us have the power within us to make the buck stop here and have peace within. And with the peace within May the World be peaceful too.  That’s my prayer for myself and for the World.  ❤ #SueTiong All pics are from Pixabay unless stated on the watermark with proper credit.

Who is Sue Tiong? A Mother’s Prayer, and a Mother’s Stand.

A parent’s prayer for their children: Unbreakable bond that lasts Long after their parents are gone. ❤
Elder Brother leading little Sister by the hand. Seeing my two kids holding hands and walking together made me see a glimpse of the future of what’s possible - unbreakable bond.
Who is Sue Tiong?
This is how I would want to be remembered as: Always with a smile, someone you Can talk to, and you can see the warmth in my eyes and see that I mean every word that I say and I mean every action that I do. ❤❤❤
Photography: Sherine Loh Sook Kuan
Hair: Lovely King
Makeup: My own hands #SueTiong
Dress: Jennice Choo Mobile Tailor
I’m a Mother first before I am a Wife and a Daughter and a sister and a friend. I am a woman in my own right. These do get different priorities at different time in life but they will always be my TOP 6. ❤ My career comes in 7th. Yes it may seem too slow or Too fast. You may not be able to fathom this woman called Sue Tiong. #SueTiong is a Mother and wife first, and a woman in her own right and doesn’t fit into any boxes or stereotype. 💃 I get women who asked me don’t I miss my kids when I travel for my career. I used to feel extreme and deep GUILT when I get these remarks. I feel judged. 😱
As a Woman My Country is the Whole World
And I do get looks of pity from men when they asked me who takes care of my kids when I travel; the answer is my darling hubby. They pity my hubby for having me as a Wife. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I used to feel an extreme sense of being irresponsible and I even felt I was worthless as a mother and a Wife... as a Daughter who’s always absent and a Sister and Friend who’s only available online and never in person. The feeling of GUILT and Shame ate into my very core and the feeling isn’t something I’d like to revisit anytime soon. I wouldn’t even wish it upon my enemy. THE BREAKTHROUGH HAPPENED WHEN I REALISED: ❤ My kids still love me no matter what.
My Husband, my rock, my pillar, my strong support, the man behind my success.
❤ My Husband still supports and loves me no matter what. ❤ My parents and siblings and friends still give me their full blessings regardless of what I decide to do as Long as I am happy and comfortable (I take care of my well-being) - My Father named me Comfortable and Happy as the meaning of my Chinese name. Oh yes my name is still shortish, three syllables including my surname Tiong. There, I do have a middle name Yii. It means happy. Today I reclaim my birth right to be happy:
Wishing everyone the opportunity to gain higher awareness deep within
I’ve left out the Happy Joyful word from my name for more than a decade.  Time to reclaim it. Time to be truly happy. ⭐ I shall be happy and joyful and not let others’ opinion of me taint my feelings towards what I already know very well is my calling and destiny.
If a small town girl from Borneo can make it, so can you. www.meetsuetiong.com
I have no right to judge anyone as I don’t live your life. If I am judged oh well it isn’t your life. And your opinion of me doesn’t pay the bills. 😊
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May everyone find inner peace and joy. 🙏🏻❤

7 Lessons I’ve learned towards Self Awareness and Self Love

Don't announce your problems to the world looking for sympathy.
Don't announce your problems to the world looking for sympathy. Most don't care, many don't want to hear them and some are Glad you have them. Address your concerns to those who truly care, and only YOU CAN HELP YOURSELF. And so #SueTiong Writes again. ❤️ I've been guilty of playing victim for the longest time, "woe is me", it's never my fault entirely and I use my gift of gab to argue or present my case cleverly to make the others look bad, I didn't realise it at that time until some tough love lessons were delivered to me in the past two years and slowly I become more Aware when this pattern of playing victim started all over again and my goal is to nip it in the bud when I catch this habit pattern each time.   I am not sure about men, but for me as a female, a highly sensitive female with my heart on my sleeve, I sometimes played the matyr as well. I will launch into a full on project or Mission to help someone or some cause and when something happened not to my expectation the entire cycle of "boohoo woe is me, all my sacrifice for nothing" internal talk happens again. I don't announce it to the world (at that time) but what I will do is to seethe inside and let the resentment fester, and when I got a cancer scare, it was a wake up call for me to take a hard look at my thought habit pattern in my life and how I generate these thoughts and the motivation behind them. What have I found so far? 1. We are all work in progress until the day we die. Celebrate every small win along the way. Ultimately there is NO FINAL GOAL because once you have scaled the highest peak, you will find that there is another higher peak for you to climb and once you reach that higher peak, you realise it's not the highest peak And so you proceed and walk on and soldier on. 💪🏻What's the process of scaling all the peaks if we draw it in a single line? The line will be a curve that is up and down and up and down and up and down and that's life!!! Just because you see another higher goal doesn't mean you need to discount your current achievement of making it to the current peak! Celebrate each win, no matter how small or insignificant! We deserve it! 🎉 2. Just like brushing our teeth daily, so does the same practice of purifying our thoughts, unless of course we choose not to live anymore so we don't need to consume any food, hence our mind won't be fed with any stimulation or input, which is impossible as Long as we are still alive. Being present in the moment, be compassionate, catch our unwholesome thoughts and transmute negativity into love peace and joy, as corny as it sounds, we need a regular detox, mind, body and soul. So do what you need to do. ☺
Sue Tiong on taking a rest
3. Trust. I have learned to trust a few people after being burned many times by others. Don't lose faith and don't lose your trust. With each betrayal, I look at the lesson, I learn how to discern true friends who are really concerned about you as opposed to those who aren't so invested in your well being. Trust the process of hurt and continue to trust. We will all go through that and your tribe will come to you, just continue to trust, especially trusting yourself.😍 4. It's okay to say NO and take back your words. Change is okay. While accountability states that we need to keep to our words and commitment, depending on the situation and circumstances and changes, sometimes it is okay to back out when things don't work out. You can't force it. There's no happiness in force. So there, release your guilt and move on. You don't owe anyone any explanation, just follow your instincts. The only person you need to answer to is you and you alone. 👌🏻 5. Forgive yourself. Start by forgiving yourself. And the rest shall fall into place. It took me many years to realise this and of course I'm still a work in progress. Self preservation and self care are not sins, forgive yourself and don't be too hard on yourself. ❤ 6. Have a look deep look within yourself on a daily basis. Spend time with yourself. Be quiet and be still. I never dared to be quiet or be still it was like I couldn't stand the silence and needed to talk at each moment. So for the extrovert right brained people, I feel you. Took a lot of inner resolve to be still and yes while I am still a work in progress, I'm Glad to take the advice from well meaning individuals who care and now I like spending time with myself alone and in silence. Try it! ⭐ 7. We all have the answers when we ask any question.💡 Follow Sue on her fb page www.fb.com/suetiongofficial or Instagram sue_tiong And twitter @suetiong

A Woman Needs No Country, As a Woman My Country is the Whole World

I am a very patriotic person. I act like a man in my speedy decisions. However as a woman, I am all mushy with a marshmallow heart. Hence it took me awhile to 'digest' this quote from Virginia Wolfe. Only when I turn on the 'woman' mode could I fully delve into the profound meaning of being a woman with the whole world as her country. ❤️ As this Sue Tiong's writing, expect a pretty long read ahead. 🙏🏻😘 This is my take on this. My own interpretation and not what Virginia Wolfe meant. ❤️ As a woman, especially as a mature woman, and risking me appearing like a feminist, a woman just want the whole world to just get along, be at peace, loving and caring, no more war, husbands come home to a warm home with food served on the table, kids and children grow up in a very conducive environment where they get basic education, basic hygiene, all the basic necessities, parents coexist in harmony, I didn't say stay together or don't divorce sometimes separation is inevitable but we can still be civil about it.
As a Woman My Country is the Whole World
Don't get me started on the negatives and the bad and ugly of this world. Isn't it too much already?
Instead let me bring your attention to my own experience where it doesn't matter which country or which flag you fly, ultimately everyone is the same. Some beg to differ saying we don't operate the same way we have different cultures we speak different languages. Yes you are right. And when you choose to see that humans are the same, you are right too. I may be an anomaly but hear me out, bear with me as I type this out. I grew up as the only girl of Chinese descent in my class for a whole 6 years in the same school. My playmates are of different tones of brown and yellow and yet we still play (and cry and made up almost immediately). When I scraped my knee I bleed, so did the other kids. Our blood is red. It's the same. And now fast forward 30 years my son is playing with a group of strangers in the playground of various ethnicities. He doesn't choose their colour he doesn't cringe at someone different than him. He's emulating me at the tender age of 4. Bless him. I plan to tell him to stay that way for as long as possible and be aware other people may judge us or react differently but that doesn't meant you have to react the same way.
Wishing everyone the opportunity to gain higher awareness deep within
As a mother and a woman, I truly believe I don't need to be divided or take sides on which country is better than the other. The world is truly one big country. The universe is one big home for all of us. *Peace* #SueTiong

FOCUS ON THE WRONG THINGS

I have been told I have been focusing on the wrong things earlier this morning. I had my call with my transformational coach Reggie Bates right before I my speech in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia to fellow entrepreneurs and business owners and while my stylist aka make up artist Ambizxien Woo (Joan) has finished applying makeup on my face and was styling my hair, I told Coach Reggie that I am nervous about me feeling under the weather with a cold, strepthroat and mild fever with a nasal voice. He told me this: "You are focusing on the wrong things, Sue. Focus on the audience. Then you won't be nervous. Once you focus on the audience only them matters, it is when you focus on yourself that you get all these thoughts." I paused and thought. He made perfect sense. I then delivered my speech and had the highest closing ever for my own personal record and I am glad I invested in myself and I have a team of supportive coaches from JT Foxx Organization. THANK YOU. I am due to speak at three events in South Africa in the coming week. Intelligent Millionaires Network Gauteng, Johannesburg, SA  Register for FREE now: http://clubs.intelligentmillionairesnetwork.com/Johannesburg/ Intelligent Millionaires Network Durban, SA Register for FREE now: http://clubs.intelligentmillionairesnetwork.com/Durban/ Tycoons of Wealth where over 1800 people will gather. I now have what I need to FOCUS. Here I come again, South Africa. To your beautiful land with beautiful people and beautiful hearts and I smile just at the thought of returning to this beautiful continent. Sincerely, Sue
FOCUS is the KEY

Sleep my beautiful baby but don’t quit

When I crash, my energy level takes a sudden dip the lethargy makes me so exhausted I even get tired I don't wish to speak or even hold a conversation, I guess the extrovert in me needs a holiday sometimes too and retreat inside so I think that qualifies me as an ambivert? I have to remind myself that "Whatever that happens it must be good". My dad was hospitalised on the day I was flying off to South Africa. I did not announce that anywhere including on Facebook where I am most active on because that is personal and that is private. Despite my seemingly open profile across the World Wide Web, I do have internal filter and you think you know me but really there are more layers to me that you need to peel off and see me for who I truly am. So unless you know me well, refrain from judging too much please. Humans are funny sometimes. The moment they see I own businesses and that I am a serial entrepreneur globe trotting from the USA to South Africa and I regularly ply between two countries to conduct training and workshop in Asia where I am based in, they automatically assume I have it easy and I lead a comfortable life and some even started begging. Yes, begging, and demanding and even extortion. I have had to lodge police reports before but that won't stop me from doing what I put my heart into and I shall continue to do it well and strive for excellence.
  1. Just because I am the founder of a social enterprise called Millionairemom Asia does NOT mean I can give away cash for free. A social enterprise means NO Donation. The beneficiary/recipient under Millionairemom Asia are all required to commit long term and they needed to pull their weight and do their part and if that is not clear - WORK AND PUT IN EFFORT - bekerja keras untuk menjana pendapatan in Bahasa Malaysia.
  2. Just because I own many businesses and partner with like-minded individuals from many different countries does NOT mean I can be YOUR mouthpiece to curry favour from my partners and even my business networks. You build your own connection and I am not paid to speak on your behalf with someone else. I mind my own business. Yes I am a connector but once the introduction has been made you are on your own. If you didn't make it into my Personal Recommendation Album on my Facebook profile I needed more time and more conviction before I will vouch and die protecting your brand. Loyalty is not to be taken lightly if you get what I mean.
  3. I literally die a little, yes a part of me die each time I leave home to fly and live the high flyer life where you see me smiling in my pictures. I am a mother and a wife and my babies are born in 2013 and 2016, so you do the Maths and you will see how young they are. I know they are in good care and hubby is a hands on father but each time and yes EACH and Every single moment I am away from them I miss them so much. You can't have your cake and eat it too. I have to learn to forgive myself and be less harsh on myself: At this point in time I choose to fly to pursue my dreams to be a role model to my two babies so they will know the important lesson that self achievement for the greater good will not have to stop and "Children are not excuses, They are your reason to work harder." You are not in my situation so save some for yourself.
  4. I do sleep and I do rest and I don't exactly need to inform the world when I am exactly working and when I am not. Even hubby does not need to know the specifics. Do I even need to announce when I am about to make love? Do I even need to take pictures of my baby's poo-soiled diapers? Do I even need to share all that you are curious about? To what end? Will that information save the world or save a life or contribute to the betterment of the world in the long run? No? Then quit the entitled attitude to my private life.
  5. I strongly believe in engaging a coach, NOT mentor. Mentors can be cheaper or even free and you can have a mentor for life but you may not be held accountable to see things through. I have been blessed to have excellent coaches including Coach Cherie Eilertsen from JT Foxx Organization and Now I am looking forward to my one full day on-site coaching with Coach Joey Falcone also from JT Foxx Org.
  6. Do these coaching sessions cost me a lot of money? Yes definitely, if you pay peanuts you get monkeys you get what I am saying? What you pay for is what you get.
  7. Have I gotten back the money spent? Yes and many times over including the inmeasurable benefits from the body soul and mind level which lends to a more harmonious relationship with family and friends and at work and that makes me an even nicer and more peaceful person.
  8. Is JT Foxx a scam? Not for me. It depends on how much are you willing to invest in yourself in terms of money and effort. Giving time to work on something is a form of investment because while you can recoup money, you cannot get back time. That is why I am rushing and doing so much while my kids are still small, to plant the seeds which I hope will bloom into a beautiful garden by the time they are in school and I can lie back and enjoy the view.
Dec 2, 2016, 2 days before JT's birthday
I have seen JT Backstage and JT in a private setting right after his highly energetic speech where he presents at his highest level. No one works harder than this man, he is almost a machine. He gives his entire self and more, each time he gives 110%. Yes he is not likeable to some but he is not here for a popularity contest. I am so glad I signed up for him as well as some other speakers at the Robert Kiyosaki platform where Success Resources had it in October 2015. Time flies, it has been over a year and I am a repeat customer for JT Foxx Org. Why? They are NOT cheap, whoever are in this network are willing to make an initial investment which is worth a lot and that speaks volumes about the character and mindset of those who are a part of #FamilyFirst I rest my case.
Speaking of rest, whenever I feel high-strung I will turn to my baby girl and smell her pretty little head or if she is sleeping I can't help but smile looking at her peaceful face like an angel when she is deep asleep.
So yeah, sleep like a baby and take a rest when you are tired but Never ever Quit doing what you have already set out to do.
May the new year of 2017 be an even better year for everyone. I know 2016 has been a spectacular year which is so transformational on all levels I am so grateful to everyone whom I connected with, yeah including the haters, haters will hate, so that's inevitable and I need to be nonchalant about it I guess, we are all still a work in progress.
Joy, peace and love
Sue Tiong on taking a rest
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Happy Birthday Darling Husband

Happy birthday to my darling husband, my rock of support, my pillar of strength and my security net which catches me whenever I fall and my gentle wind that caresses my wounded soul that lent me the courage to try again after each time I stumble, my consistent safe space provider and my confidante who knows me as much as I know myself if not better, a loving father and hands on in everything that he does... we have grown so much since we have been together for more than 13 years our love have matured as we have physically aged, may we cherish more wonderful moments here and now and while I don't dare to think of the day we will part, I pray for many more happy years with you and our little family ahead. HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAR HUSBAND. Love you for eternity. Xoxo Sue Tiong
My husband with our two children. Nov 20, 2016
My husband with our two children. Nov 20, 2016

Happy Birthday JT Foxx

Dec 2, 2016, 2 days before JT's birthday
Dec 2, 2016, 2 days before JT's birthday
Happy birthday, JT Foxx, the world's No 1 Wealth Coach My businesses knew no limit after meeting you! It has been the best year yet for my husband and I and having a strong support system in the business network JT brought together with his annual Family Reunion and many live events globally you can check out his schedule at www.jtfoxxlive.com #JTFoxx #FamilyFirst #Loyalty Results Don't Lie and for those of you who are just about to start a business or already owning businesses, a solopreneur or already manages over 300 staff member, his team of coaches are the cream of the crop and one of the best things that happened this year (besides our surprise baby girl) is meeting Power Coach Cherie Eilertsen. Thank you JT Foxx, people say you change countries one country at a time, but for me you have changed my entire life and I could see that you genuinely care, so by being loyal and genuine, that is how you change lives one at a time and in turn change an entire generation of entrepreneurs globally. Such powerful impact I won't be surprised if you win the Nobel Prize soon! Happy Birthday JT. Have a blast and please don't stop changing lives, changing the world. #FamilyFirst With gratitude and pride to be part of the JT Foxx Family First, Sue Tiong