The Buck Stops Here Now

I feel that many adults (me included) are suffering from some form of depression or childhood trauma, which results in some undesirable things that we do. 
Depression - How a child’s mental health is affecting adulthood
Now, now don’t get me wrong. It’s nothing serious although in some cases the cases are really serious. It’s day to day “normal” thing. Like “Don’t speak, a child is supposed to be seen not heard”, and the child learns to shut up and fears to speak or express feelings to anyone, which resulted in the basis of dysfunctional future relationships because I truly believe in the importance of sharing and speaking and expressing our feelings and creating a safer space for everyone in the relationship to reciprocate the sharing. 
Understanding how childhood trauma affects adulthood is of utmost importance
So when I encounter such adults in life, I see myself in them. I learned not to take the “abuse” or hurtful remarks or action against me as “personal” by taking this approach to see an aspect of myself in them. Internalising it to not take It personally, if that makes sense.
I see a little child inside of that person. The child as per the picture below. 
How to nurture a child’s mental health
A child who needs validation, needs a safe space just to be, needs a safe space to tell the truth even though the truth hurts, and a safe space to make mistakes and not be judged. 
Every human being has a little child inside that just wants to be heard, loved and feel safe.
I am NOT condoning the wrong and the hurt and harm these people may have caused, if they killed someone they need to be judged by court and face legal consequences, if they steal then they must return whatever they stole and pay for it with legal consequences... I am writing this for YOU. Yes You and Me. People who were “victims”. I use the past tense “were”.
Break Free
We were victims. We ARE no longer victims now. It is our choice to walk away from our past with our Chin high up. Not with boastful pride but with dignified elegance, with GRACE.  When we don’t resort to wanting to hurt the other person back, we break the cycle of “you hurt me, I hurt you back, you hurt me even more, I hurt you back even more, etc”. The BUCK STOPS HERE.    AND IT STOPS NOW WITH ME. 
Love really makes the world go round
All of us have the power within us to make the buck stop here and have peace within. And with the peace within May the World be peaceful too.  That’s my prayer for myself and for the World.  ❤ #SueTiong All pics are from Pixabay unless stated on the watermark with proper credit.

Who is Sue Tiong? A Mother’s Prayer, and a Mother’s Stand.

A parent’s prayer for their children: Unbreakable bond that lasts Long after their parents are gone. ❤
Elder Brother leading little Sister by the hand. Seeing my two kids holding hands and walking together made me see a glimpse of the future of what’s possible - unbreakable bond.
Who is Sue Tiong?
This is how I would want to be remembered as: Always with a smile, someone you Can talk to, and you can see the warmth in my eyes and see that I mean every word that I say and I mean every action that I do. ❤❤❤
Photography: Sherine Loh Sook Kuan
Hair: Lovely King
Makeup: My own hands #SueTiong
Dress: Jennice Choo Mobile Tailor
I’m a Mother first before I am a Wife and a Daughter and a sister and a friend. I am a woman in my own right. These do get different priorities at different time in life but they will always be my TOP 6. ❤ My career comes in 7th. Yes it may seem too slow or Too fast. You may not be able to fathom this woman called Sue Tiong. #SueTiong is a Mother and wife first, and a woman in her own right and doesn’t fit into any boxes or stereotype. 💃 I get women who asked me don’t I miss my kids when I travel for my career. I used to feel extreme and deep GUILT when I get these remarks. I feel judged. 😱
As a Woman My Country is the Whole World
And I do get looks of pity from men when they asked me who takes care of my kids when I travel; the answer is my darling hubby. They pity my hubby for having me as a Wife. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I used to feel an extreme sense of being irresponsible and I even felt I was worthless as a mother and a Wife... as a Daughter who’s always absent and a Sister and Friend who’s only available online and never in person. The feeling of GUILT and Shame ate into my very core and the feeling isn’t something I’d like to revisit anytime soon. I wouldn’t even wish it upon my enemy. THE BREAKTHROUGH HAPPENED WHEN I REALISED: ❤ My kids still love me no matter what.
My Husband, my rock, my pillar, my strong support, the man behind my success.
❤ My Husband still supports and loves me no matter what. ❤ My parents and siblings and friends still give me their full blessings regardless of what I decide to do as Long as I am happy and comfortable (I take care of my well-being) - My Father named me Comfortable and Happy as the meaning of my Chinese name. Oh yes my name is still shortish, three syllables including my surname Tiong. There, I do have a middle name Yii. It means happy. Today I reclaim my birth right to be happy:
Wishing everyone the opportunity to gain higher awareness deep within
I’ve left out the Happy Joyful word from my name for more than a decade.  Time to reclaim it. Time to be truly happy. ⭐ I shall be happy and joyful and not let others’ opinion of me taint my feelings towards what I already know very well is my calling and destiny.
If a small town girl from Borneo can make it, so can you. www.meetsuetiong.com
I have no right to judge anyone as I don’t live your life. If I am judged oh well it isn’t your life. And your opinion of me doesn’t pay the bills. 😊
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May everyone find inner peace and joy. 🙏🏻❤

Baby Steps are the Beginning of the Ripple Effect Leading to an Explosive Massively Successful Future!

  • How do you eat the elephant? One bite at a time.
  • How to you tackle a HUGE task? One small item on the checklist at a time.
  • How do you finish writing a book? One word at a time.
  • How do you complete the journey to success? One baby step at a time.
  • I don't think we can ever complete the journey to success anyway. There is always room for improvement and the human species thrive and survive over the millennia by innovating and always pushing the limits and boundary.
  • We are all still growing.
  • We can choose to be happy or to be unhappy. May our journey in growth and fulfillment be filled with joyful steps!!!
  • Happy October everyone! My fav month of the year just because it is my birth month lol.
  • This year has been phenomenal for me and just when I thought it could not get better, here I am on 30th October typing this entry in excitement of a new opportunity and many new business ventures and so many new possibilities in the next coming weeks!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.
  • People matters. Relationship capital at its finest, yes I truly believe in building relationship capital. Be nice and be yourself - it will come around. How has your 10 months been so far? A baby should be born full term by now, that is how significant the year has been if you are to measure it to the length!
  • Oct 31, 2017 - My first trip to the Philippines. Not for tourism but for business. Feeling glad, feeling excited, feeling thankful.
  • So many firsts this year. I have been blessed and I am grateful and appreciate everyone who lend a hand to make this sure a truly wonderful year.

7 Lessons I’ve learned towards Self Awareness and Self Love

Don't announce your problems to the world looking for sympathy.
Don't announce your problems to the world looking for sympathy. Most don't care, many don't want to hear them and some are Glad you have them. Address your concerns to those who truly care, and only YOU CAN HELP YOURSELF. And so #SueTiong Writes again. ❤️ I've been guilty of playing victim for the longest time, "woe is me", it's never my fault entirely and I use my gift of gab to argue or present my case cleverly to make the others look bad, I didn't realise it at that time until some tough love lessons were delivered to me in the past two years and slowly I become more Aware when this pattern of playing victim started all over again and my goal is to nip it in the bud when I catch this habit pattern each time.   I am not sure about men, but for me as a female, a highly sensitive female with my heart on my sleeve, I sometimes played the matyr as well. I will launch into a full on project or Mission to help someone or some cause and when something happened not to my expectation the entire cycle of "boohoo woe is me, all my sacrifice for nothing" internal talk happens again. I don't announce it to the world (at that time) but what I will do is to seethe inside and let the resentment fester, and when I got a cancer scare, it was a wake up call for me to take a hard look at my thought habit pattern in my life and how I generate these thoughts and the motivation behind them. What have I found so far? 1. We are all work in progress until the day we die. Celebrate every small win along the way. Ultimately there is NO FINAL GOAL because once you have scaled the highest peak, you will find that there is another higher peak for you to climb and once you reach that higher peak, you realise it's not the highest peak And so you proceed and walk on and soldier on. 💪🏻What's the process of scaling all the peaks if we draw it in a single line? The line will be a curve that is up and down and up and down and up and down and that's life!!! Just because you see another higher goal doesn't mean you need to discount your current achievement of making it to the current peak! Celebrate each win, no matter how small or insignificant! We deserve it! 🎉 2. Just like brushing our teeth daily, so does the same practice of purifying our thoughts, unless of course we choose not to live anymore so we don't need to consume any food, hence our mind won't be fed with any stimulation or input, which is impossible as Long as we are still alive. Being present in the moment, be compassionate, catch our unwholesome thoughts and transmute negativity into love peace and joy, as corny as it sounds, we need a regular detox, mind, body and soul. So do what you need to do. ☺
Sue Tiong on taking a rest
3. Trust. I have learned to trust a few people after being burned many times by others. Don't lose faith and don't lose your trust. With each betrayal, I look at the lesson, I learn how to discern true friends who are really concerned about you as opposed to those who aren't so invested in your well being. Trust the process of hurt and continue to trust. We will all go through that and your tribe will come to you, just continue to trust, especially trusting yourself.😍 4. It's okay to say NO and take back your words. Change is okay. While accountability states that we need to keep to our words and commitment, depending on the situation and circumstances and changes, sometimes it is okay to back out when things don't work out. You can't force it. There's no happiness in force. So there, release your guilt and move on. You don't owe anyone any explanation, just follow your instincts. The only person you need to answer to is you and you alone. 👌🏻 5. Forgive yourself. Start by forgiving yourself. And the rest shall fall into place. It took me many years to realise this and of course I'm still a work in progress. Self preservation and self care are not sins, forgive yourself and don't be too hard on yourself. ❤ 6. Have a look deep look within yourself on a daily basis. Spend time with yourself. Be quiet and be still. I never dared to be quiet or be still it was like I couldn't stand the silence and needed to talk at each moment. So for the extrovert right brained people, I feel you. Took a lot of inner resolve to be still and yes while I am still a work in progress, I'm Glad to take the advice from well meaning individuals who care and now I like spending time with myself alone and in silence. Try it! ⭐ 7. We all have the answers when we ask any question.💡 Follow Sue on her fb page www.fb.com/suetiongofficial or Instagram sue_tiong And twitter @suetiong

A Woman Needs No Country, As a Woman My Country is the Whole World

I am a very patriotic person. I act like a man in my speedy decisions. However as a woman, I am all mushy with a marshmallow heart. Hence it took me awhile to 'digest' this quote from Virginia Wolfe. Only when I turn on the 'woman' mode could I fully delve into the profound meaning of being a woman with the whole world as her country. ❤️ As this Sue Tiong's writing, expect a pretty long read ahead. 🙏🏻😘 This is my take on this. My own interpretation and not what Virginia Wolfe meant. ❤️ As a woman, especially as a mature woman, and risking me appearing like a feminist, a woman just want the whole world to just get along, be at peace, loving and caring, no more war, husbands come home to a warm home with food served on the table, kids and children grow up in a very conducive environment where they get basic education, basic hygiene, all the basic necessities, parents coexist in harmony, I didn't say stay together or don't divorce sometimes separation is inevitable but we can still be civil about it.
As a Woman My Country is the Whole World
Don't get me started on the negatives and the bad and ugly of this world. Isn't it too much already?
Instead let me bring your attention to my own experience where it doesn't matter which country or which flag you fly, ultimately everyone is the same. Some beg to differ saying we don't operate the same way we have different cultures we speak different languages. Yes you are right. And when you choose to see that humans are the same, you are right too. I may be an anomaly but hear me out, bear with me as I type this out. I grew up as the only girl of Chinese descent in my class for a whole 6 years in the same school. My playmates are of different tones of brown and yellow and yet we still play (and cry and made up almost immediately). When I scraped my knee I bleed, so did the other kids. Our blood is red. It's the same. And now fast forward 30 years my son is playing with a group of strangers in the playground of various ethnicities. He doesn't choose their colour he doesn't cringe at someone different than him. He's emulating me at the tender age of 4. Bless him. I plan to tell him to stay that way for as long as possible and be aware other people may judge us or react differently but that doesn't meant you have to react the same way.
Wishing everyone the opportunity to gain higher awareness deep within
As a mother and a woman, I truly believe I don't need to be divided or take sides on which country is better than the other. The world is truly one big country. The universe is one big home for all of us. *Peace* #SueTiong

JT Foxx, The Man Who Changes The World, One Country at a Time

Love him or hate him, JT Foxx is the man I truly believe is changing the world, one country at a time.
WIth JT Foxx and 50 Cent International Artiste and Rapper, Successful Businessman
Impossible? I don't think so. You see, with JT Foxx, behind him are thousands of the strongest individuals that ever lived in this day and age who have the power to move the world. He's not alone. He is the living example of successful power of networking and leveraging. Your net worth is your network.  Above all, the biggest asset that anyone can have besides property and money is the MIND. And JT has one of the biggest minds ahead of his time and boy it has been a really eye opening ride in my journey with JT Foxx.
My most recent pix with World's No 1 Wealth Coach JT Foxx
Now who is this JT Foxx guy anyway? JT Foxx, World's No 1 Wealth Coach, Owner of over 50 businesses around the world, the next Billionaire, owner of one of the largest business networks of active entrepreneurs and business owners in the world, a guy with a big heart and a visionary.
Sue Tiong and hubby CS LEE with JT Foxx
Best of all, he's my coach. And he's not the only coach. He understands the power of leveraging and under the JT Foxx Org, there are many business coaches who are specialists and experts in their respective fields ranging from all aspects of your business from systems to structure, to SOP, to marketing and branding and of course sales and profit.
Dec 2, 2016, 2 days before JT's birthday
You see, this guy knows the only forward is to move together.
The Power of Teamwork and Leveraging. Pic Courtesy: Pixabay
"There is plenty of room up here", he always said, he genuinely wishes for more entrepreneurs and businesses to grow to their fullest potential.
An industry cannot grow without a WIN WIN strategy. Pic Courtesy: Pixabay
Gone are the days of scarcity where businesses hide trade secrets and their ultimate aim is to kill off their competitors by going head to head. Enough of that. JT Foxx saw through that and through him, thousands of businesses are started and grown globally! Leveraging on a global scale.
Together we are stronger. Pic Courtesy: Pixabay
I see it this way, cross pollination always produces better crops. The way JT does it is for all resources to be leveraged on and together the businesses in the same industry will grow. By changing one industry at a time, it not only increases the income and the economy, it changes the entire socioeconomic landscape of the entire nation. Talk about ripple effects!
JT is featured in top magazines in South Africa
SUE TiONG'S JOURNEY WITH JT FOXX's #FAMILYFIRST Personally, my first one-to-one session with JT was on his birthday Dec 4, 2015.  I first saw him on stage on October 2015 sharing the stage with Robert Kiyosaki. The reason I signed up for his workshop was because my husband's business was taking him away from family time and I was not very happy about it.  We officially became coaching students on Dec 4, 2015 and have never looked back. Our businesses have grown to great heights that we would not even have dared to dream should it not be for JT Foxx's mind-changing coaching.
Pic Courtesy: Pixabay
When we were still thinking about single digit millions back then, now we are talking about multi-million dollar deals across the globe. The numbers and the digits are just jumping off the screen and we are having fun with them. Say what you want about the man but I tell you this, if not for JT Foxx, both my husband and I would not even have achieved this much with our businesses in such a short span of time.
Pic Courtesy: Pixabay
BEING SELF-EMPLOYED vs A TRUE BUSINESS OWNER When I first saw JT speak on stage, the line that got me was when JT said: "You have to work on your business, NOT In your business". You spend 90% of your time doing the 10% of the things that really matters that makes you money in your business.
Now that is the essence of a business owner.  If we slog and work hard and trade time for money, we are pretty much still an employee, albeit self-employed. And THE FIVE PEOPLE YOU SPEND THE MOST TIME WITH matters, that is why he surrounds himself with successful people like Sir Richard Branson. To be a true business owner, we have to not only learn to let go, but ensure that a system is in place for the business to run itself in our absence. That is how JT Foxx can own over 50 companies from all over the world. He walks the talk and he practices what he preaches.
My Journey with JT Foxx
There are no regrets for having invested my time and effort into my business and choosing to stay loyal to the JT Foxx network. The man himself is the real deal. PARTNER OR SPOUSE "PROBLEM" What if your spouse doesn't agree to it? I dragged my husband along and the rest they say, is history. Now my husband's business has also grown exponentially and my businesses are simply off the roof, with new businesses and new ventures and collaborations happening as I am typing this. We never dared to dream in multi-million dollar currencies before, we are truly grateful for the global business network that JT Foxx has built for us to leverage and grow. All these are happening internationally, yes, our businesses are growing, on a global scale.
Sue Tiong, Global Speaker, International Business Strategist, Business Coach and Serial Entrepreneur
Before we met JT Foxx, we thought we will be comfortable with only 'enough' and stay local. After we met JT Foxx, we owe it to the world to push ourselves to our highest potential and grow our businesses to its maximum capacity.
Sue Tiong and JT Foxx on stage
What have Sue Tiong gained from JT Foxx? (If That is Still Not Obvious by Now) I am grateful for the branding opportunities JT has provided us with time to speak on global stages. I have spoken on stage in front of 3000 people and shared the stage with Randi Zuckerberg and Nelson Mandela's grandson, Olympic Gold medalists, celebrities and powerful multi-millionaires and tycoons.
Sue Tiong with Randi Zuckerberg, sister to Mark Zuckerberg, founder of Facebook
Never in my wildest dream I would have thought my speech would get a standing ovation from over a thousand people in my journey to be a global speaker.
Sue speaking at Tycoons of Wealth
I am the proud representative from Malaysia to speak at the Tycoons of Wealth in South Africa. The different countries and cultures are just coming together to unite under one organisation and that in itself is just amazing, thank you JT Foxx for bridging the gap where business owners and entrepreneurs around the world overlook their differences to collaborate and in turn promoting world peace. I hereby nominate JT to win the Nobel Peace Prize for such an exemplary piece of work! BRUSHING SHOULDERS WITH THE STARS - 50 Cent and JOHN TRAVOLTA! (gasp)
My idol John Travolta and JT Foxx World's No 1 Wealth Coach
One of my most memorable moments was when John Travolta spoke to me when a star-struck me took a picture with him. I honestly forgot what he said because it felt so surreal. Thanks to JT Foxx for sharing the stage with us and for sportingly inviting John Travolta to sing a duet with the female audience. Man, that was a duet to remember.
JT Foxx's Global Network of Strong Business Owners
... BUT MY KIDS ARE STILL SMALL (OR BIG OR STILL AT HOME) Now that is one excuse which I was also guilty of at one time.
Sue Tiong and her babies posing with JT Foxx, World's No 1 Wealth Coach
I used my children as an excuse to not take much action until my coach shook me and said Children Should be the REASON you work hard, NOT an excuse for inaction. Thank you JT Foxx for bringing Coach Cherie Eilertsen into my life. Thank you for the many coaches Les Evans, Joey Falcone, Reggie Bates, Kevin France, to name a few whom I have had the privilege of being coached by. Each and every piece of advice was taken and implemented to great results in my businesses. The ripple effect is endless! All it takes is just a single person to change your life.
Clockwise from top Left: With the US President's former right hand man, George Ross, CELEBRITY RAPPER and businessman 50 Cent and President of High Point University, Nido Qubein
And for Sue Tiong, that person is JT Foxx. With Gratitude, Sue Tiong, CS Lee (Sue's hubby) and our two little ones and many others touched by us. Results Don't Lie. We are living the results each and every day. Thank you JT Foxx.
From left to right: Sue's husband CS Lee, JT Foxx world's no 1 Wealth Coach, Sue Tiong, Damien Elston CEO OF JT FOXX ORG
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Sue Tiong on SABC NEWS LIVE on national TV speaking about the importance of branding for businesses to go global

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Selling is Dirty?

I used to think that Money is dirty. Selling is dirty. Sales is dirty. However when I am the one giving money, Money that I give becomes okay, I am helping the person who sells to me and sales especially when I am the buyer makes it alright especially when I buy it. I even felt guilty if I keep my money and I just felt uncomfortable with money. Back then, for me, it was a necessity but nothing more than that.
What is your relationship with money? How do you feel about money?
Now, I feel more comfortable with money.  I am charging more now and I don't cringe when I issue an invoice and I was told I charge too much. If I am worth it, then I am worth the money. Been on both ends of the spectrum and it is almost a non-issue now. As for charity, I am doing it now more sparingly albeit more effectively.
Money is just a tool to get material comforts or to get the information/education we subscribe to. It is an exchange that must happen for a transaction to go through and it is as dirty as the person's mind when handling it. It is all in the mind.
I am glad I had a breakthrough with money when I did. I do appreciate the struggles of those who were like me before this. Reach out to me. www.fb.com/suetiong or like my page www.fb.com/suetiongofficial Till then, wishing everyone peace with money.  

Happy Women’s Day

Happy Women's Day! To all the beautiful women of the world! I may not have met all of you but I know we are more similar than any of us would fully admit! Also a big shoutout to all the confident men out there who support the women in their lives starting from their mother and then their sisters and female relatives, their female friends, their spouse/partner, their daughters, and the list goes on. THANK YOU for not letting the women in your life suffer!

Today is International Women's Day and may we all unite together in sisterhood and support each other!

No one woman is made the same yet our struggles are similar if not the same. Our emotions are the same, mothers feel the pain when another mother is feeling the pain, sisters feel the strain in relationship and bffs just get it and stay true and don't leave your side no matter how ugly your behaviour is for the day.

It is not really rocket science to deduce that WOMEN FOR WOMEN spirit is very much more needed in today's world where disparity and the gap is growing bigger when half of our sisters globally are being left behind due to them being born on the 'wrong side' of the world.

  • Let us lend a voice to all the women who could not enjoy freedom of speech.
  • Let us lend a hand to all the women who are physically confined and rendered helpless.
  • Let us shed some light to all the women who are in the dark and denied basic education.
  • Let us help in anyway we can for women to keep their children safe and sound, for women to have access to basic healthcare, for women to be able to have confidence and trust again in this world, to provide a beacon of hope to the women who felt the future is bleak and of course to all women out there, to let them know being different is beautiful, just the way we are born, no need for excessive and invasive procedures to conform to what the society deem as 'beautiful'.
Spread love, not hate. Happy Women's Day!
A collection of random pictures of the women in my life including my baby girl and her god mother. I love being a woman and I am proud of girl power!  
Happy Women's Day to all females! May your beauty shine inside out and may your heart be filled with peace and joy.
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FOCUS ON THE WRONG THINGS

I have been told I have been focusing on the wrong things earlier this morning. I had my call with my transformational coach Reggie Bates right before I my speech in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia to fellow entrepreneurs and business owners and while my stylist aka make up artist Ambizxien Woo (Joan) has finished applying makeup on my face and was styling my hair, I told Coach Reggie that I am nervous about me feeling under the weather with a cold, strepthroat and mild fever with a nasal voice. He told me this: "You are focusing on the wrong things, Sue. Focus on the audience. Then you won't be nervous. Once you focus on the audience only them matters, it is when you focus on yourself that you get all these thoughts." I paused and thought. He made perfect sense. I then delivered my speech and had the highest closing ever for my own personal record and I am glad I invested in myself and I have a team of supportive coaches from JT Foxx Organization. THANK YOU. I am due to speak at three events in South Africa in the coming week. Intelligent Millionaires Network Gauteng, Johannesburg, SA  Register for FREE now: http://clubs.intelligentmillionairesnetwork.com/Johannesburg/ Intelligent Millionaires Network Durban, SA Register for FREE now: http://clubs.intelligentmillionairesnetwork.com/Durban/ Tycoons of Wealth where over 1800 people will gather. I now have what I need to FOCUS. Here I come again, South Africa. To your beautiful land with beautiful people and beautiful hearts and I smile just at the thought of returning to this beautiful continent. Sincerely, Sue
FOCUS is the KEY

Embracing the Beauty in Imperfection

As I sit here waiting for my next appointment in Bangkok I saw these plants and it triggered a childhood memory. These leaves are naturally shaped like this and I thought naively as a child my mother took the scissors and cut through its leaves everyday. Then in my childish curiosity I began to observe its leaves unfolding from its curled up bud and saw that it naturally has holes in them. I began to wonder why do these leaves have holes in them, that makes them so different from other "whole" leaves. This poignant memory made me realise that the leaves are beautiful, even with the so-called "defects", the holes are what make them unique and they are perfect just as they are. Embrace differences in our lives, see the beauty in each imperfection and see that life is beautiful with its good and bad. We grow in adversity, only in growth can we improve ourselves. #SueTiong