I feel that many adults (me included) are suffering from some form of depression or childhood trauma, which results in some undesirable things that we do.
Now, now don’t get me wrong. It’s nothing serious although in some cases the cases are really serious. It’s day to day “normal” thing. Like “Don’t speak, a child is supposed to be seen not heard”, and the child learns to shut up and fears to speak or express feelings to anyone, which resulted in the basis of dysfunctional future relationships because I truly believe in the importance of sharing and speaking and expressing our feelings and creating a safer space for everyone in the relationship to reciprocate the sharing.
So when I encounter such adults in life, I see myself in them. I learned not to take the “abuse” or hurtful remarks or action against me as “personal” by taking this approach to see an aspect of myself in them. Internalising it to not take It personally, if that makes sense.
I see a little child inside of that person. The child as per the picture below.
A child who needs validation, needs a safe space just to be, needs a safe space to tell the truth even though the truth hurts, and a safe space to make mistakes and not be judged.
I am NOT condoning the wrong and the hurt and harm these people may have caused, if they killed someone they need to be judged by court and face legal consequences, if they steal then they must return whatever they stole and pay for it with legal consequences... I am writing this for YOU. Yes You and Me. People who were “victims”.
I use the past tense “were”.
We were victims. We ARE no longer victims now. It is our choice to walk away from our past with our Chin high up. Not with boastful pride but with dignified elegance, with GRACE.
When we don’t resort to wanting to hurt the other person back, we break the cycle of “you hurt me, I hurt you back, you hurt me even more, I hurt you back even more, etc”.
The BUCK STOPS HERE.
AND IT STOPS NOW WITH ME.
All of us have the power within us to make the buck stop here and have peace within. And with the peace within May the World be peaceful too.That’s my prayer for myself and for the World.
All pics are from Pixabay unless stated on the watermark with proper credit.
How to you tackle a HUGE task? One small item on the checklist at a time.
How do you finish writing a book? One word at a time.
How do you complete the journey to success? One baby step at a time.
I don't think we can ever complete the journey to success anyway. There is always room for improvement and the human species thrive and survive over the millennia by innovating and always pushing the limits and boundary.
We are all still growing.
We can choose to be happy or to be unhappy. May our journey in growth and fulfillment be filled with joyful steps!!!
Happy October everyone! My fav month of the year just because it is my birth month lol.
This year has been phenomenal for me and just when I thought it could not get better, here I am on 30th October typing this entry in excitement of a new opportunity and many new business ventures and so many new possibilities in the next coming weeks!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.
People matters. Relationship capital at its finest, yes I truly believe in building relationship capital. Be nice and be yourself - it will come around. How has your 10 months been so far? A baby should be born full term by now, that is how significant the year has been if you are to measure it to the length!
Oct 31, 2017 - My first trip to the Philippines. Not for tourism but for business. Feeling glad, feeling excited, feeling thankful.
So many firsts this year. I have been blessed and I am grateful and appreciate everyone who lend a hand to make this sure a truly wonderful year.
Love him or hate him, JT Foxx is the man I truly believe is changing the world, one country at a time.
Impossible? I don't think so. You see, with JT Foxx, behind him are thousands of the strongest individuals that ever lived in this day and age who have the power to move the world.
He's not alone. He is the living example of successful power of networking and leveraging. Your net worth is your network. Above all, the biggest asset that anyone can have besides property and money is the MIND. And JT has one of the biggest minds ahead of his time and boy it has been a really eye opening ride in my journey with JT Foxx.
Now who is this JT Foxx guy anyway? JT Foxx, World's No 1 Wealth Coach, Owner of over 50 businesses around the world, the next Billionaire, owner of one of the largest business networks of active entrepreneurs and business owners in the world, a guy with a big heart and a visionary.
Best of all, he's my coach. And he's not the only coach. He understands the power of leveraging and under the JT Foxx Org, there are many business coaches who are specialists and experts in their respective fields ranging from all aspects of your business from systems to structure, to SOP, to marketing and branding and of course sales and profit.
You see, this guy knows the only forward is to move together.
"There is plenty of room up here", he always said, he genuinely wishes for more entrepreneurs and businesses to grow to their fullest potential.
Gone are the days of scarcity where businesses hide trade secrets and their ultimate aim is to kill off their competitors by going head to head. Enough of that. JT Foxx saw through that and through him, thousands of businesses are started and grown globally! Leveraging on a global scale.
I see it this way, cross pollination always produces better crops. The way JT does it is for all resources to be leveraged on and together the businesses in the same industry will grow. By changing one industry at a time, it not only increases the income and the economy, it changes the entire socioeconomic landscape of the entire nation. Talk about ripple effects!
SUE TiONG'S JOURNEY WITH JT FOXX's #FAMILYFIRST
Personally, my first one-to-one session with JT was on his birthday Dec 4, 2015. I first saw him on stage on October 2015 sharing the stage with Robert Kiyosaki.
The reason I signed up for his workshop was because my husband's business was taking him away from family time and I was not very happy about it. We officially became coaching students on Dec 4, 2015 and have never looked back. Our businesses have grown to great heights that we would not even have dared to dream should it not be for JT Foxx's mind-changing coaching.
When we were still thinking about single digit millions back then, now we are talking about multi-million dollar deals across the globe. The numbers and the digits are just jumping off the screen and we are having fun with them. Say what you want about the man but I tell you this, if not for JT Foxx, both my husband and I would not even have achieved this much with our businesses in such a short span of time.
BEING SELF-EMPLOYED vs A TRUE BUSINESS OWNER
When I first saw JT speak on stage, the line that got me was when JT said: "You have to work on your business, NOT In your business".
You spend 90% of your time doing the 10% of the things that really matters that makes you money in your business.
Now that is the essence of a business owner. If we slog and work hard and trade time for money, we are pretty much still an employee, albeit self-employed. And THE FIVE PEOPLE YOU SPEND THE MOST TIME WITH matters, that is why he surrounds himself with successful people like Sir Richard Branson.
To be a true business owner, we have to not only learn to let go, but ensure that a system is in place for the business to run itself in our absence. That is how JT Foxx can own over 50 companies from all over the world. He walks the talk and he practices what he preaches.
There are no regrets for having invested my time and effort into my business and choosing to stay loyal to the JT Foxx network. The man himself is the real deal.
PARTNER OR SPOUSE "PROBLEM"
What if your spouse doesn't agree to it? I dragged my husband along and the rest they say, is history. Now my husband's business has also grown exponentially and my businesses are simply off the roof, with new businesses and new ventures and collaborations happening as I am typing this. We never dared to dream in multi-million dollar currencies before, we are truly grateful for the global business network that JT Foxx has built for us to leverage and grow.
All these are happening internationally, yes, our businesses are growing, on a global scale.
Before we met JT Foxx, we thought we will be comfortable with only 'enough' and stay local.
After we met JT Foxx, we owe it to the world to push ourselves to our highest potential and grow our businesses to its maximum capacity.
What have Sue Tiong gained from JT Foxx? (If That is Still Not Obvious by Now)
I am grateful for the branding opportunities JT has provided us with time to speak on global stages. I have spoken on stage in front of 3000 people and shared the stage with Randi Zuckerberg and Nelson Mandela's grandson, Olympic Gold medalists, celebrities and powerful multi-millionaires and tycoons.
Never in my wildest dream I would have thought my speech would get a standing ovation from over a thousand people in my journey to be a global speaker.
I am the proud representative from Malaysia to speak at the Tycoons of Wealth in South Africa.
The different countries and cultures are just coming together to unite under one organisation and that in itself is just amazing, thank you JT Foxx for bridging the gap where business owners and entrepreneurs around the world overlook their differences to collaborate and in turn promoting world peace. I hereby nominate JT to win the Nobel Peace Prize for such an exemplary piece of work!
BRUSHING SHOULDERS WITH THE STARS - 50 Cent and JOHN TRAVOLTA! (gasp)
One of my most memorable moments was when John Travolta spoke to me when a star-struck me took a picture with him. I honestly forgot what he said because it felt so surreal.
Thanks to JT Foxx for sharing the stage with us and for sportingly inviting John Travolta to sing a duet with the female audience. Man, that was a duet to remember.
... BUT MY KIDS ARE STILL SMALL (OR BIG OR STILL AT HOME)
Now that is one excuse which I was also guilty of at one time.
I used my children as an excuse to not take much action until my coach shook me and said Children Should be the REASON you work hard, NOT an excuse for inaction. Thank you JT Foxx for bringing Coach Cherie Eilertsen into my life. Thank you for the many coaches Les Evans, Joey Falcone, Reggie Bates, Kevin France, to name a few whom I have had the privilege of being coached by. Each and every piece of advice was taken and implemented to great results in my businesses.
The ripple effect is endless!
All it takes is just a single person to change your life.
And for Sue Tiong, that person is JT Foxx.
With Gratitude, Sue Tiong, CS Lee (Sue's hubby) and our two little ones and many others touched by us. Results Don't Lie. We are living the results each and every day. Thank you JT Foxx.
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I used to think that Money is dirty. Selling is dirty. Sales is dirty.
However when I am the one giving money, Money that I give becomes okay, I am helping the person who sells to me and sales especially when I am the buyer makes it alright especially when I buy it.
I even felt guilty if I keep my money and I just felt uncomfortable with money. Back then, for me, it was a necessity but nothing more than that.
Now, I feel more comfortable with money. I am charging more now and I don't cringe when I issue an invoice and I was told I charge too much.
If I am worth it, then I am worth the money.
Been on both ends of the spectrum and it is almost a non-issue now.
As for charity, I am doing it now more sparingly albeit more effectively.
Money is just a tool to get material comforts or to get the information/education we subscribe to. It is an exchange that must happen for a transaction to go through and it is as dirty as the person's mind when handling it. It is all in the mind.
I am glad I had a breakthrough with money when I did. I do appreciate the struggles of those who were like me before this.
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Till then, wishing everyone peace with money.
It has been a wondrous journey in life and business so far and I am really grateful for everyone whom I have met. ❤️Everyone who comes into my life added some value to it be it as a blessing or a lesson, ✍I've had my fair share of teachable moments and have broken through some old programming and beliefs, even more so after I met Coach Cherie Eilertsen some 15 months ago. ❤️I've never looked back since. Thank you #PowerCoachCherie and everyone who touched my life in one way or another. Thanks to her, and also my own determination to make it work, 💜
I have jumped out of the airplane (literally in Nov 2016 from the highest sky dive in the world at 18,000 feet)💛
I realised I have been playing small and safe all along so I did something about it.💙
Cast my doubts aside and took the global stage and now ⭐️I am an international speaker within 6 months of my first ever paid speaking engagement, built a global brand for myself and also for my existing and new clients, suddenly I get international businesses knocking on my door and my greatest wake up call was when my client of five years were "courted" by Frost and Sullivan to win an award,🖤
speaking of business, let's just say I've never dealt with so many spaces in numbers before this, I never thought I'd say this but it's fun to play the numbers game, I've always been a words over numbers person but the steep learning curve as an entrepreneur has actually groomed me to be a very number conscious business owner, $$$
you know your fire is infectious when you get individual entrepreneurs approaching you for collaboration and even coaching, it was a spin-off from my main consultancy business and now I am a business coach to small and medium businesses and consultant to major corporations. ⭐️All this came along in a whirlwind short half a year and still counting when I let go of my crutch and my excuses by quoting my baby wasn't even 1 years old yet and my Son not even 4 yet. It is so easy to cower and hide behind the veil of motherhood and just don't push my own limits and just "be local".
And then Coach Cherie said "DON'T LET your kids be your excuses, make them YOUR REASONS" and now they are 1 and 4 AND they are just fine AND BEST OF ALL I CAN SHOW TO THEM THEIR MAMA is living her life to the fullest and loving them all the same.
Deepest gratitude to everyone including the naysayers, haters and critics, each word just make me stronger so thank you. #Gratitude #SueTiong www.meetsuetiong.com