Great Things Never Came from Comfort Zones

Great Things Never Came From Comfort Zones
2019 is set to be a year of plunging us into very uncomfortable situations and the tests that will follow are bound to stretch our limits beyond what we experienced before. Change is the only constant. Embrace changes and go with the flow.  www.MeetSueTiong.com  

Importance of Keeping a Supportive Network

It is very important to keep a supportive network of people around you. When times got tough and I felt like quitting it takes just one word to make or break me. I choose to hang on to any morsel of support I could get when I was faced with challenges, when I felt like giving up and it was just too hard to continue, life goes on with or without me, with or without my contribution, it is so easy to succumb to pressure and choose to
Supportive Network Is Essential to Keep the Fire Within Burning
believe the naysayers or the “words of logic” spoken by those who said those words out of misguided concern without really knowing what keeps your fire burning inside. ”The only person who makes you feel negative is YOU.” Thank you Pooja Rajan for reminding me this today. 💕🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️ With great gratitude. I am reminded again and again of just how much blessed I am. I choose to not feel like victim and I allow myself to step into my full power right now. Thank you to every person who touched my life, in every way, even those who provoked negative thoughts and reactions from me, we only learn when there is a curve, not when we drive on a straight road. I am a better person thanks to Life’s lessons.
Help me stand strong
Life has been a great compassionate teacher to me. I am who I am today, a woman who is so powerful I can do whatever I want anytime I want to if I put my mind and heart to it, I know that, but that doesn’t mean I don’t need reminder from time to time, my deepest gratitude to everyone who supported me from birth till now, my family and friends and of course that includes my siblings, parents, relatives and friends and most importantly the one closest to me now - my Husband Lee Chong Siang Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

You Don’t Understand

Judge me all you want,  Call me a coward,  Call me lazy, Call me not doing anything worthwhile, Call me useless, Give me that look of disgust, Give me that eye of pity, Look down on me, Look and sneer at me,  Call me a coward for wanting to escape it all, When everything seems bleak and no point to it all,  Say all that you want,  I finally don’t care anymore.  Let me Rest In Peace.  - Depression is Real, It is a Silent Killer, Continue Judging something you don’t feel, Go On, Feel good about yourself. Thank you very much.  To raise awareness of understanding depression.

Quitting Does Not Mean You are Weak

Quitting Does Not Mean that You Are Weak. It just means you are strong enough to stand up and say No. Sue Tiong.
This is my first blog post for the New Year.
What is Strength? Can you still be strong when you quit? It all depends on the context.
In my part of the world it is already dawn of the New Year of 2018, the sun is rising and yet the rain poured. It has been raining for three days and my kids hardly had any water play time in our family vacation but they are not complaining... Ah the joys of being little human beings. The innocence and how simple they think.
Yes I can. Is saying yes the only way to be strong?
Becoming a parent made me reflect a lot. Why do kids need to rebel and do the complete opposite of what you tell them to do? It is to exert their independence and to find the strength in saying NO.
Teach Kids how to say no And tell them it is okay to quit and walk away.
The #MeToo campaign brought on a lot of confessions and a lot of victims, men and women and girls and boys all stood up and shared.
Every child deserve to be safe. Stop Child Abuse
In September 2017, three unlikely women formed a trio that became the basis of Project Cahaya -means Light in the Malay language. Our target is the youth, especially those who are below age 12. Call them children, call them kids, they are our youth, the light of hope for the future of our world.
Children are the strength of our future
 
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  It all started with a story of a girl. To protect her identity there will be no location and no year. I shall not entertain any queries if it is even me.
Project Cahaya started with the story of a girl
She was only 12 years old when her innocence was taken away by her male relative. She woke up on a school day with the man on TOP of her, having his way with her, in other words, raping her.
Stop, No more!
She ran to the house opposite of where she stays and her female relative told her to get ready to school and brushed off her complaint of the rape, the adults did not know how to handle the situation.
We cannot undo or unsee things
She got to school and confided in her teacher and was sent to the hospital for medical examination which confirmed that sex has indeed occured. The next thing you know, her case was brushed under the carpet. “She’s a slut, it’s her fault”.  Never mind that she’s an underage and it is her first sexual experience.
She’s judged, she’s made to feel that she’s to be blamed for her own rape by the very adult who was supposed to protect her and keep her safe. She’s shamed and labelled a slut. She’s only 12.
Help me stand strong
Project Cahaya aims to provide a safe space for the children to express themselves and learn to trust themselves to heal and to trust the world again. These children are supposed to be protected and yet for some, fate and the adults around them betrayed that very early in their lives.
Stand up for our children, not only your own but the world’s children!
If this makes you feel very uncomfortable, I am sorry. What I am sharing; it is very real. Child abuse happens throughout the world, many suffering in silence. Many with no voice; many don’t even have a choice to say No or walk away.
We are the world, we are the children
https://youtu.be/M9BNoNFKCBI This is some heavy post for a brand new year but while we celebrate it is also apt to remember those who are not as fortunate as we are, if we don’t do anything about it, life goes on and nothing change.
Stop Violence. No means no.
Let’s take a look at the actions taken by females and even males around the world in the last century.
Women learned to fight back and resist
Man still feel that they are superior and further perpetuate the belief for centuries
Is it all muscles and grit and all hard to be strong? Do we need to break the glass ceiling all the time and have our hands and body bleed each time we fight to break the glass ceiling? Not only women but humans in general and the existing discrimination in place. Women, and also the minority, especially in the last 100 years felt a need to emulate men in order to stand up for themselves, however is masculinity the only way to be strong? Is it a battle or a competition to see who is stronger? Why can’t we have mutual respect regardless of who we are?
We even have two men becoming parents together in a beautiful marriage in today’s world. So why fight about what makes us different?
What does strength mean to you? S-T-R-E-N-G-T-H For me it means grace in adversity and the ability to gracefully exit when you want to.
Break Free
Strength is in the power to say No, and Enough, and move on. HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE, may the world be the best that it can ever be in 2018 and beyond. ❤️
This is how I would want to be remembered as: Always with a smile, someone you Can talk to, and you can see the warmth in my eyes and see that I mean every word that I say and I mean every action that I do. ❤️❤️❤️
Photography: Sherine Loh Sook Kuan
Hair: Lovely King
Makeup: My own hands #SueTiong
Dress: Jennice Choo Mobile Tailor
All pictures and photographs are credited to Pixabay and my personal collection.

And Then What?

AND THEN WHAT? Been awhile.... Since Sue is writing again, expect this to be pretty Long. Popcorns ready. 😂 I had five back to back conference calls today including many conversations this evening at a business networking event. Connected with a few of them and I realised that ultimately, the theme is the same. "What next after you have fame, wealth, fortune?" You have food on the table, a roof over your head, you are mobile and can get around, you have a reputation, strong presence, a family, a career, SUCCESS, in other words you want for nothing, so what is next? If you do business only for money, after awhile all you will get is money and only money. There will be a void inside that money can't fill up. You will find that money cannot take away your misery, at least not permanently. You will crave for the fastest newest edition of your gadgets, your luxury cars, I am not one for cars but I am guilty of that for my phones, I have more than 4 phones, guilty as charged. I justify them with the lamest reasons, like I need to be connected all the time, it is a false need, I survived 12 days without my phone at my silent retreat and I didn't die 😂. You may indulge in intoxicants or crave for the high that alcohol or recreational drugs provide, you escape that void inside for awhile and then what? That is only a quick fix, or is it really a fix or a plaster over an infected open wound? Deep inside there is a longing to cry out loud or just to get someone to truly understand the pain you feel inside... what is this void inside, why do I keep reverting to my old thinking habits that makes me seem like a hamster on the wheel, the only problem is... the wheel is turning but the hamster has passed out. In this chase for more and MORE AND MORE, after you have more, you want more. The rush of adrenaline, the high you get when you are elated, the blood rushing to your head when you are excited. And then the crash comes... AND THEN WHAT. There was a time when I feel like I was just going through the motion, I knew I had to keep moving or else I will be consumed by the void. The fear to face the void was very true. I felt like escaping, like you are on the run and you are only running from your own shadow. Inside, deep inside, you feel so tired and you question everything that you know and you doubt everything and everyone you know. Oh yes, broken business partnerships, death of friendships and relationship, we have our own day to day struggles. Then I realised I was just running away from my own shadow. My fear was totally unfounded. And when I talk to people, and I look into their eyes, I see me, I see my fear, I see my hope, we are all the same. We have the same feelings. We are all humans. Money buys happiness but it cannot bring you true joy and peace. Happiness is good. Joy is deep. Peace is one thing many with money is lacking nowadays. I had a glimpse of inner peace earlier this month when I was a nobody and only a number on the list and not talking to anyone of the 100 over people... It was not exactly a holiday, it was a break with hard work, working to face my inner demons and fulfilling my commitment to stay the entire 10 days. It was the best proudest achievement of mine so far, for staying on and for making sure I completed the strict regime right till the end, I will go again next year. ❤️ For those of you who are wondering what I am talking about, check out this link: https://www.dhamma.org/en/index Oh don't get me wrong, I am not going to give up life as I know it or sell off all my businesses and become a recluse or a nun. AND NOW WHAT? I finally found some peace. And my heart is bursting with joy and love, that I want to share this with anyone who is looking for some peace, joy and love. And to truly smile from the heart, that feeling is simply amazing. 🙏🏻😊❤️ Something is brewing, something beautiful, something which aims to spread the art of living in peace and blending harmoniously with our pursuit of wealth. Now that is exciting! I have decided not to upgrade my phone for the next one year because I HAVE ENOUGH, and I have all that matters now. And I choose not to let the little voice of doubt inside take over my decisions. I AM NOT A BAD MOTHER FOR LEAVING my children while I travel. Whatever that I do is with them in mind. Just because you cannot understand why I can't do it your way doesn't mean that my way is wrong. Yes, I finally found peace because my biggest obstacle is my definition of being a good Mother. I cannot be the perfect Mother, I can only be a good Mother who is happy and at peace. I truly am at peace now and I am happy. ❤️
Wishing everyone the opportunity to gain higher awareness deep within
Once my energy shifted, the people around me shifted as well. Some got drawn closer, some seemed to be repelled and backed off and some totally exited my life. The only permanent thing in life is CHANGE. The only definite thing in life is DEATH. The only chance we have is NOW. So live in the moment. I CHOOSE ME. I choose to continue being me. I shall help whoever I want and I shall act on my gut feelings and intuition/6th sense whatever you call it; it has served me well over the years.   As I enter my late 30s getting closer to 40, I am Glad all the pain happened when they did and all the paths I took led me to right where I am now which is exactly where I needed to be. On the 10th Anniversary of your death my precious baby, I can finally let you go... my angel. My firstborn who didn't even breathe even one gasp of air. You healed me physically and I allowed myself to grieve for you for 10 years like a living dead. I am ready to let you go now my precious little angel. I knew you can't make it today before you finally left my body 2 weeks later, call it a mother's instinct. Thank you for coming into my life no matter how brief. I release all the guilt that I am a bad Mother for not being able to allow you to grow and live. I release you now my baby. I am finally at peace. ❤️ This blog post is dedicated to all women and men who have experienced the loss of a loved one in any way at all and also to all the human beings who feel that there is more to life than just birth, and money and death. May we all find inner peace and true joy within.

A Woman Needs No Country, As a Woman My Country is the Whole World

I am a very patriotic person. I act like a man in my speedy decisions. However as a woman, I am all mushy with a marshmallow heart. Hence it took me awhile to 'digest' this quote from Virginia Wolfe. Only when I turn on the 'woman' mode could I fully delve into the profound meaning of being a woman with the whole world as her country. ❤️ As this Sue Tiong's writing, expect a pretty long read ahead. 🙏🏻😘 This is my take on this. My own interpretation and not what Virginia Wolfe meant. ❤️ As a woman, especially as a mature woman, and risking me appearing like a feminist, a woman just want the whole world to just get along, be at peace, loving and caring, no more war, husbands come home to a warm home with food served on the table, kids and children grow up in a very conducive environment where they get basic education, basic hygiene, all the basic necessities, parents coexist in harmony, I didn't say stay together or don't divorce sometimes separation is inevitable but we can still be civil about it.
As a Woman My Country is the Whole World
Don't get me started on the negatives and the bad and ugly of this world. Isn't it too much already?
Instead let me bring your attention to my own experience where it doesn't matter which country or which flag you fly, ultimately everyone is the same. Some beg to differ saying we don't operate the same way we have different cultures we speak different languages. Yes you are right. And when you choose to see that humans are the same, you are right too. I may be an anomaly but hear me out, bear with me as I type this out. I grew up as the only girl of Chinese descent in my class for a whole 6 years in the same school. My playmates are of different tones of brown and yellow and yet we still play (and cry and made up almost immediately). When I scraped my knee I bleed, so did the other kids. Our blood is red. It's the same. And now fast forward 30 years my son is playing with a group of strangers in the playground of various ethnicities. He doesn't choose their colour he doesn't cringe at someone different than him. He's emulating me at the tender age of 4. Bless him. I plan to tell him to stay that way for as long as possible and be aware other people may judge us or react differently but that doesn't meant you have to react the same way.
Wishing everyone the opportunity to gain higher awareness deep within
As a mother and a woman, I truly believe I don't need to be divided or take sides on which country is better than the other. The world is truly one big country. The universe is one big home for all of us. *Peace* #SueTiong

Selling is Dirty?

I used to think that Money is dirty. Selling is dirty. Sales is dirty. However when I am the one giving money, Money that I give becomes okay, I am helping the person who sells to me and sales especially when I am the buyer makes it alright especially when I buy it. I even felt guilty if I keep my money and I just felt uncomfortable with money. Back then, for me, it was a necessity but nothing more than that.
What is your relationship with money? How do you feel about money?
Now, I feel more comfortable with money.  I am charging more now and I don't cringe when I issue an invoice and I was told I charge too much. If I am worth it, then I am worth the money. Been on both ends of the spectrum and it is almost a non-issue now. As for charity, I am doing it now more sparingly albeit more effectively.
Money is just a tool to get material comforts or to get the information/education we subscribe to. It is an exchange that must happen for a transaction to go through and it is as dirty as the person's mind when handling it. It is all in the mind.
I am glad I had a breakthrough with money when I did. I do appreciate the struggles of those who were like me before this. Reach out to me. www.fb.com/suetiong or like my page www.fb.com/suetiongofficial Till then, wishing everyone peace with money.  

Gratitude leads to many blessings including money

Sue Tiong and her coach Cherie Eilertsen #PowerCoachCherie
It has been a wondrous journey in life and business so far and I am really grateful for everyone whom I have met. ❤️Everyone who comes into my life added some value to it be it as a blessing or a lesson, ✍I've had my fair share of teachable moments and have broken through some old programming and beliefs, even more so after I met Coach Cherie Eilertsen some 15 months ago. ❤️I've never looked back since. Thank you #PowerCoachCherie and everyone who touched my life in one way or another. Thanks to her, and also my own determination to make it work, 💜 I have jumped out of the airplane (literally in Nov 2016 from the highest sky dive in the world at 18,000 feet)💛
I realised I have been playing small and safe all along so I did something about it.💙
Cast my doubts aside and took the global stage and now ⭐️I am an international speaker within 6 months of my first ever paid speaking engagement, built a global brand for myself and also for my existing and new clients, suddenly I get international businesses knocking on my door and my greatest wake up call was when my client of five years were "courted" by Frost and Sullivan to win an award,🖤 speaking of business, let's just say I've never dealt with so many spaces in numbers before this, I never thought I'd say this but it's fun to play the numbers game, I've always been a words over numbers person but the steep learning curve as an entrepreneur has actually groomed me to be a very number conscious business owner, $$$ 💛 you know your fire is infectious when you get individual entrepreneurs approaching you for collaboration and even coaching, it was a spin-off from my main consultancy business and now I am a business coach to small and medium businesses and consultant to major corporations. ⭐️All this came along in a whirlwind short half a year and still counting when I let go of my crutch and my excuses by quoting my baby wasn't even 1 years old yet and my Son not even 4 yet. It is so easy to cower and hide behind the veil of motherhood and just don't push my own limits and just "be local".
And then Coach Cherie said "DON'T LET your kids be your excuses, make them YOUR REASONS" and now they are 1 and 4 AND they are just fine AND BEST OF ALL I CAN SHOW TO THEM THEIR MAMA is living her life to the fullest and loving them all the same. ❤️
Deepest gratitude to everyone including the naysayers, haters and critics, each word just make me stronger so thank you. #Gratitude #SueTiong www.meetsuetiong.com

2016 In Review – ACT

If I need to describe 2016 in one word, that word would be ACTION. Only after we act will things happen, hence this picture where I spell out A-C-T as Action Changes Things. It is funny how hesitation stops people from taking the right and sometimes very necessary action towards the right direction. Delaying is only postponing the inevitable. I learned that the hard way.
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Excuses are only a decoy you set for yourself to self-sabotage, to steal away your focus from unleashing your potential to be the greater you that you deserve to be. For me, I used my children as excuses to just not take action as I fear all the possibilities of the greatness that I could achieve, my coach knew what was happening and once my newborn baby girl was 3 months old and we talked again, her words rang true and spoke to my core: "There is much to do, Sue, children are your reason to act, they are NOT your excuses, we have wasted much time now, you have no time to sleep, we can always sleep after we die". I love you so much #PowerCoachCherie Thank you for seeing me for what I could be when I was running away from myself, from the possibility of what my potential could bring me, Thank you for saying the words that I needed to hear and not what I wanted to hear. I am so excited to see how far I can go in 2017, I am so glad I have you by my side Coach Cherie Eilertsen.
Happy New Year 2017 everyone! What are your excuses that are stopping you?www.meetsuetiong.com

JT Foxx Family Reunion 2 #JTFoxxFamilyReunion2

Awesome #FamilyFirst #JTFoxx #FamilyReunion #JTFoxxFamilyReunion Nov 10-13, 2016 It has been a truly transformational experience meeting 1500 entrepreneurs from 61 countries from around the world. And it isn't half way through yet!!! Two more days to go!
Wow, just wow. The people I met, old friends and new friends, they are just amazing and I aim to meet as many people as possible before the end of this four-day-event! I do get people who asked why do I post on Facebook so much and my answer is "Why Not?"
This is the way I operate, utilising existing tools to make communication seamless. AND it is hard work I tell you, to match the faces to the name and to remember details about each new person I meet and to recall details of those I haven't met in a few months whom I may have only met once or twice, but the effort is well worth it!
Can you shed tears when you just met someone and talked for half an hour? YES! That is the power of connection when you follow your gut and your heart resonates.
Can you shed tears when you just met someone and talked for half an hour? YES! That is the power of connection when you follow your gut and your heart resonates.
Today at lunch I had a deep talk with someone I just met and both Michelle Renaldo Ferguson and I had tears in our eyes as our hearts resonated while sharing our experiences about life, illness and death which are inevitable in life. JT Foxx and the JT Foxx Org bring way more than business coaching to all of us, it is the experience that counts and the network which adds to our net worth is just wow. #FamilyFirst And please don't fear me if I suggest we take a wefie (picture of more than a person with the front camera of a phone), it is the "in" thing to post things up on social media and staying friends on social media is as good as a phone call if not better, and yes I have new business partnerships born in the past year since I joined the Family, and as far as #loyalty goes, need I say more? ❤️😘 It has been a truly transformational experience meeting 1500 entrepreneurs from 61 countries from around the world. And it isn't half way through yet!!! Wow, just wow. #FamilyFirst Powerful global connections JT Foxx bridges the people from all over the world, last I checked he has spoken at 61 countries all over the world and the vast network is amazing to tap into, it also brings like-minded people together and it cuts away at all the "what if they are not serious about the doing business with me or to do business at all?" We get pass all that because people will gather together when they share the same mindset and our core vibrates at the same frequency. img_2649 img_2650 img_2651 img_2652It is just amazing and a truly life-changing journey with the #JTFoxx #FamilyFirst so far and things will only get better from now on!!! Oh yeah, we make things happen and if it won't work one way we find another way to do it. When my Coach Cherie Eilertsen asked me what my values are, values that I will keep close to my heart and will never ever compromise, No 1 value that I will never compromise is LOYALTY. I saw how loyal the JT Foxx Org especially JT Foxx the man himself and he truly treats his Network as part of his real family. Thank you JT Foxx, you have my utmost respect and my deep loyalty. For those of you who don't know who JT Foxx is, and you are in business or interested to start at business you MUST KNOW JT, check it out at www.meetjtfoxx.com