I feel that many adults (me included) are suffering from some form of depression or childhood trauma, which results in some undesirable things that we do.
Now, now don’t get me wrong. It’s nothing serious although in some cases the cases are really serious. It’s day to day “normal” thing. Like “Don’t speak, a child is supposed to be seen not heard”, and the child learns to shut up and fears to speak or express feelings to anyone, which resulted in the basis of dysfunctional future relationships because I truly believe in the importance of sharing and speaking and expressing our feelings and creating a safer space for everyone in the relationship to reciprocate the sharing.
So when I encounter such adults in life, I see myself in them. I learned not to take the “abuse” or hurtful remarks or action against me as “personal” by taking this approach to see an aspect of myself in them. Internalising it to not take It personally, if that makes sense.
I see a little child inside of that person. The child as per the picture below.
A child who needs validation, needs a safe space just to be, needs a safe space to tell the truth even though the truth hurts, and a safe space to make mistakes and not be judged.
I am NOT condoning the wrong and the hurt and harm these people may have caused, if they killed someone they need to be judged by court and face legal consequences, if they steal then they must return whatever they stole and pay for it with legal consequences... I am writing this for YOU. Yes You and Me. People who were “victims”.
I use the past tense “were”.
We were victims. We ARE no longer victims now. It is our choice to walk away from our past with our Chin high up. Not with boastful pride but with dignified elegance, with GRACE.
When we don’t resort to wanting to hurt the other person back, we break the cycle of “you hurt me, I hurt you back, you hurt me even more, I hurt you back even more, etc”.
The BUCK STOPS HERE.
AND IT STOPS NOW WITH ME.
All of us have the power within us to make the buck stop here and have peace within. And with the peace within May the World be peaceful too.That’s my prayer for myself and for the World.
All pics are from Pixabay unless stated on the watermark with proper credit.
A parent’s prayer for their children: Unbreakable bond that lasts Long after their parents are gone. ❤
Who is Sue Tiong?
I’m a Mother first before I am a Wife and a Daughter and a sister and a friend. I am a woman in my own right. These do get different priorities at different time in life but they will always be my TOP 6. ❤
My career comes in 7th. Yes it may seem too slow or Too fast. You may not be able to fathom this woman called Sue Tiong. #SueTiong is a Mother and wife first, and a woman in her own right and doesn’t fit into any boxes or stereotype.
I get women who asked me don’t I miss my kids when I travel for my career. I used to feel extreme and deep GUILT when I get these remarks. I feel judged.
And I do get looks of pity from men when they asked me who takes care of my kids when I travel; the answer is my darling hubby. They pity my hubby for having me as a Wife. 🤷🏼♀️
I used to feel an extreme sense of being irresponsible and I even felt I was worthless as a mother and a Wife... as a Daughter who’s always absent and a Sister and Friend who’s only available online and never in person.
The feeling of GUILT and Shame ate into my very core and the feeling isn’t something I’d like to revisit anytime soon. I wouldn’t even wish it upon my enemy.
THE BREAKTHROUGH HAPPENED WHEN I REALISED:
❤ My kids still love me no matter what.
❤ My Husband still supports and loves me no matter what.
❤ My parents and siblings and friends still give me their full blessings regardless of what I decide to do as Long as I am happy and comfortable (I take care of my well-being) - My Father named me Comfortable and Happy as the meaning of my Chinese name. Oh yes my name is still shortish, three syllables including my surname Tiong. There, I do have a middle name Yii. It means happy.
Today I reclaim my birth right to be happy:
I’ve left out the Happy Joyful word from my name for more than a decade. Time to reclaim it. Time to be truly happy.
I shall be happy and joyful and not let others’ opinion of me taint my feelings towards what I already know very well is my calling and destiny.
I have no right to judge anyone as I don’t live your life. If I am judged oh well it isn’t your life. And your opinion of me doesn’t pay the bills. 😊
May everyone find inner peace and joy. 🙏🏻❤
This is my first blog post for the New Year.
In my part of the world it is already dawn of the New Year of 2018, the sun is rising and yet the rain poured. It has been raining for three days and my kids hardly had any water play time in our family vacation but they are not complaining... Ah the joys of being little human beings. The innocence and how simple they think.
Becoming a parent made me reflect a lot. Why do kids need to rebel and do the complete opposite of what you tell them to do? It is to exert their independence and to find the strength in saying NO.
The #MeToo campaign brought on a lot of confessions and a lot of victims, men and women and girls and boys all stood up and shared.
In September 2017, three unlikely women formed a trio that became the basis of Project Cahaya -means Light in the Malay language. Our target is the youth, especially those who are below age 12. Call them children, call them kids, they are our youth, the light of hope for the future of our world.
It all started with a story of a girl. To protect her identity there will be no location and no year. I shall not entertain any queries if it is even me.
She was only 12 years old when her innocence was taken away by her male relative. She woke up on a school day with the man on TOP of her, having his way with her, in other words, raping her.
She ran to the house opposite of where she stays and her female relative told her to get ready to school and brushed off her complaint of the rape, the adults did not know how to handle the situation.
She got to school and confided in her teacher and was sent to the hospital for medical examination which confirmed that sex has indeed occured.
The next thing you know, her case was brushed under the carpet. “She’s a slut, it’s her fault”. Never mind that she’s an underage and it is her first sexual experience.
She’s judged, she’s made to feel that she’s to be blamed for her own rape by the very adult who was supposed to protect her and keep her safe. She’s shamed and labelled a slut. She’s only 12.
Project Cahaya aims to provide a safe space for the children to express themselves and learn to trust themselves to heal and to trust the world again. These children are supposed to be protected and yet for some, fate and the adults around them betrayed that very early in their lives.
If this makes you feel very uncomfortable, I am sorry. What I am sharing; it is very real. Child abuse happens throughout the world, many suffering in silence. Many with no voice; many don’t even have a choice to say No or walk away.
This is some heavy post for a brand new year but while we celebrate it is also apt to remember those who are not as fortunate as we are, if we don’t do anything about it, life goes on and nothing change.
Let’s take a look at the actions taken by females and even males around the world in the last century.
Is it all muscles and grit and all hard to be strong?
Do we need to break the glass ceiling all the time and have our hands and body bleed each time we fight to break the glass ceiling? Not only women but humans in general and the existing discrimination in place.
Women, and also the minority, especially in the last 100 years felt a need to emulate men in order to stand up for themselves, however is masculinity the only way to be strong?
Is it a battle or a competition to see who is stronger?
Why can’t we have mutual respect regardless of who we are?
What does strength mean to you?
For me it means grace in adversity and the ability to gracefully exit when you want to.
Strength is in the power to say No, and Enough, and move on.
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE, may the world be the best that it can ever be in 2018 and beyond. ❤️
All pictures and photographs are credited to Pixabay and my personal collection.
In the end what really matters is how we feel. What we really remember are the good feelings which come with our memories. ❤️
It doesn’t matter how good-looking you were when you were young or how successful you were, in the end what people will remember are the most beautiful heart and soul. #death is inevitable. #life is a choice every single moment. #SueTiong
My son is greatly disturbed tonight when we answered his question on why humans grow old... and ultimately all who are born will die, old or young. Death is inevitable.
Then he started asking me: Will Papa grow old and die? Will grandma grow old and die? Will grandpa grow old and die? Will auntie grow old and die? Will uncle grow old and die? Will khai Ma (godma) YP Wee grow old and die? Will my best friend grow old and die? Then he answered it himself by shaking his head vehemently with a frown on his head, no my best friend Yuan Shao will not grow old, he’s a small boy.
Then a worried look came and he looked at me and asked will Auntie Ed die too? How about Uncle Jay Larimore? It broke my heart to see the pain in his eyes. My son Ray is only 4 years old with a sensitive nature and a gentle heart, bless his soul, then his next question really broke my heart: Who will I have left if everyone die?
I hesitated for a second before replying that by the time everyone who is big now is old and dead, he would be a grown man like his papa and then he asked further, will there still be monsters??? I then said because he’s already big like Papa, he can fend off the monsters from his own children. He will become a Papa too.
I said Papa’s mother is Popo and she has passed away because she was sick. Then Ray asked me, are you sick too? I nearly choked and replied, I am still okay, I am still alive, my son.
I prodded him to go up because it was way past his bedtime, today being Friday.
He got to his bed and frowned further. He hugged his bolster tightly with his eyes wide open. I snuggled up beside him and told him that everything is alright. The biggest lie any parent can tell is “Everything is alright”. He doesn’t look convinced that everything is alright.
I can almost hear his little mind whirring and working and grasping the concept of death and old age.
Then I kept very still and asked for a guidance to how best to close this topic and let him find closure and peace before he falls off into his slumber.
This is what I told him when I took his hand and drew on his palm and touched his forehead and kissed him gently:
“When Papa’s mother passed away, she was gently carried away and loved. Whatever you need, just ask and you will be given. Think happy thoughts, don’t be angry. If you are angry at us, and you keep repeating I don’t want mama, I don’t want Papa, then one day you will really don’t have mama or papa anymore because your request is granted. Be very careful with your words.”
With the lesson delivered, I continued:
“Just like how your Popo (papa’s mother) is protected and loved, you are very much loved too. See this unicorn blanket gifted by Auntie Jacqueline Koay, if you think you are still scared, like you are trapped in a fire and want to escape and fly far far away (he is fascinated by fire and fire engine lately) then you think happy thoughts and call the unicorn, the unicorn can fly and carry you away from the fire and keep you safe. Remember that many people love you very very much. Okay?” He nodded and I tucked him in.
Now I know why we need Unicorns and monster fighters. Oh my dear baby boy, being your mother opens up a whole new world to me and every day is a lesson and a gift that I am beginning to treasure and appreciate even more with the passing of each and every day. Thank you my son for reminding me of the impermanence of life. ❤️
How to you tackle a HUGE task? One small item on the checklist at a time.
How do you finish writing a book? One word at a time.
How do you complete the journey to success? One baby step at a time.
I don't think we can ever complete the journey to success anyway. There is always room for improvement and the human species thrive and survive over the millennia by innovating and always pushing the limits and boundary.
We are all still growing.
We can choose to be happy or to be unhappy. May our journey in growth and fulfillment be filled with joyful steps!!!
Happy October everyone! My fav month of the year just because it is my birth month lol.
This year has been phenomenal for me and just when I thought it could not get better, here I am on 30th October typing this entry in excitement of a new opportunity and many new business ventures and so many new possibilities in the next coming weeks!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.
People matters. Relationship capital at its finest, yes I truly believe in building relationship capital. Be nice and be yourself - it will come around. How has your 10 months been so far? A baby should be born full term by now, that is how significant the year has been if you are to measure it to the length!
Oct 31, 2017 - My first trip to the Philippines. Not for tourism but for business. Feeling glad, feeling excited, feeling thankful.
So many firsts this year. I have been blessed and I am grateful and appreciate everyone who lend a hand to make this sure a truly wonderful year.
Don't announce your problems to the world looking for sympathy. Most don't care, many don't want to hear them and some are Glad you have them. Address your concerns to those who truly care, and only YOU CAN HELP YOURSELF.
And so #SueTiong Writes again.
I've been guilty of playing victim for the longest time, "woe is me", it's never my fault entirely and I use my gift of gab to argue or present my case cleverly to make the others look bad, I didn't realise it at that time until some tough love lessons were delivered to me in the past two years and slowly I become more Aware when this pattern of playing victim started all over again and my goal is to nip it in the bud when I catch this habit pattern each time.
I am not sure about men, but for me as a female, a highly sensitive female with my heart on my sleeve, I sometimes played the matyr as well. I will launch into a full on project or Mission to help someone or some cause and when something happened not to my expectation the entire cycle of "boohoo woe is me, all my sacrifice for nothing" internal talk happens again. I don't announce it to the world (at that time) but what I will do is to seethe inside and let the resentment fester, and when I got a cancer scare, it was a wake up call for me to take a hard look at my thought habit pattern in my life and how I generate these thoughts and the motivation behind them.
What have I found so far?
1. We are all work in progress until the day we die. Celebrate every small win along the way. Ultimately there is NO FINAL GOAL because once you have scaled the highest peak, you will find that there is another higher peak for you to climb and once you reach that higher peak, you realise it's not the highest peak And so you proceed and walk on and soldier on. 💪🏻What's the process of scaling all the peaks if we draw it in a single line? The line will be a curve that is up and down and up and down and up and down and that's life!!! Just because you see another higher goal doesn't mean you need to discount your current achievement of making it to the current peak! Celebrate each win, no matter how small or insignificant! We deserve it! 🎉
2. Just like brushing our teeth daily, so does the same practice of purifying our thoughts, unless of course we choose not to live anymore so we don't need to consume any food, hence our mind won't be fed with any stimulation or input, which is impossible as Long as we are still alive. Being present in the moment, be compassionate, catch our unwholesome thoughts and transmute negativity into love peace and joy, as corny as it sounds, we need a regular detox, mind, body and soul. So do what you need to do. ☺
3. Trust. I have learned to trust a few people after being burned many times by others. Don't lose faith and don't lose your trust. With each betrayal, I look at the lesson, I learn how to discern true friends who are really concerned about you as opposed to those who aren't so invested in your well being. Trust the process of hurt and continue to trust. We will all go through that and your tribe will come to you, just continue to trust, especially trusting yourself.😍
4. It's okay to say NO and take back your words. Change is okay. While accountability states that we need to keep to our words and commitment, depending on the situation and circumstances and changes, sometimes it is okay to back out when things don't work out. You can't force it. There's no happiness in force. So there, release your guilt and move on. You don't owe anyone any explanation, just follow your instincts. The only person you need to answer to is you and you alone. 👌🏻
5. Forgive yourself. Start by forgiving yourself. And the rest shall fall into place. It took me many years to realise this and of course I'm still a work in progress. Self preservation and self care are not sins, forgive yourself and don't be too hard on yourself. ❤
6. Have a look deep look within yourself on a daily basis. Spend time with yourself. Be quiet and be still. I never dared to be quiet or be still it was like I couldn't stand the silence and needed to talk at each moment. So for the extrovert right brained people, I feel you. Took a lot of inner resolve to be still and yes while I am still a work in progress, I'm Glad to take the advice from well meaning individuals who care and now I like spending time with myself alone and in silence. Try it! ⭐
7. We all have the answers when we ask any question.💡
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I am a very patriotic person. I act like a man in my speedy decisions. However as a woman, I am all mushy with a marshmallow heart. Hence it took me awhile to 'digest' this quote from Virginia Wolfe. Only when I turn on the 'woman' mode could I fully delve into the profound meaning of being a woman with the whole world as her country. ❤️
As this Sue Tiong's writing, expect a pretty long read ahead. 🙏🏻😘
This is my take on this. My own interpretation and not what Virginia Wolfe meant. ❤️
As a woman, especially as a mature woman, and risking me appearing like a feminist, a woman just want the whole world to just get along, be at peace, loving and caring, no more war, husbands come home to a warm home with food served on the table, kids and children grow up in a very conducive environment where they get basic education, basic hygiene, all the basic necessities, parents coexist in harmony, I didn't say stay together or don't divorce sometimes separation is inevitable but we can still be civil about it.
Don't get me started on the negatives and the bad and ugly of this world. Isn't it too much already?
Instead let me bring your attention to my own experience where it doesn't matter which country or which flag you fly, ultimately everyone is the same. Some beg to differ saying we don't operate the same way we have different cultures we speak different languages. Yes you are right. And when you choose to see that humans are the same, you are right too.
I may be an anomaly but hear me out, bear with me as I type this out.
I grew up as the only girl of Chinese descent in my class for a whole 6 years in the same school.
My playmates are of different tones of brown and yellow and yet we still play (and cry and made up almost immediately).
When I scraped my knee I bleed, so did the other kids. Our blood is red. It's the same.
And now fast forward 30 years my son is playing with a group of strangers in the playground of various ethnicities. He doesn't choose their colour he doesn't cringe at someone different than him. He's emulating me at the tender age of 4. Bless him. I plan to tell him to stay that way for as long as possible and be aware other people may judge us or react differently but that doesn't meant you have to react the same way.
As a mother and a woman, I truly believe I don't need to be divided or take sides on which country is better than the other. The world is truly one big country. The universe is one big home for all of us.
Love him or hate him, JT Foxx is the man I truly believe is changing the world, one country at a time.
Impossible? I don't think so. You see, with JT Foxx, behind him are thousands of the strongest individuals that ever lived in this day and age who have the power to move the world.
He's not alone. He is the living example of successful power of networking and leveraging. Your net worth is your network. Above all, the biggest asset that anyone can have besides property and money is the MIND. And JT has one of the biggest minds ahead of his time and boy it has been a really eye opening ride in my journey with JT Foxx.
Now who is this JT Foxx guy anyway? JT Foxx, World's No 1 Wealth Coach, Owner of over 50 businesses around the world, the next Billionaire, owner of one of the largest business networks of active entrepreneurs and business owners in the world, a guy with a big heart and a visionary.
Best of all, he's my coach. And he's not the only coach. He understands the power of leveraging and under the JT Foxx Org, there are many business coaches who are specialists and experts in their respective fields ranging from all aspects of your business from systems to structure, to SOP, to marketing and branding and of course sales and profit.
You see, this guy knows the only forward is to move together.
"There is plenty of room up here", he always said, he genuinely wishes for more entrepreneurs and businesses to grow to their fullest potential.
Gone are the days of scarcity where businesses hide trade secrets and their ultimate aim is to kill off their competitors by going head to head. Enough of that. JT Foxx saw through that and through him, thousands of businesses are started and grown globally! Leveraging on a global scale.
I see it this way, cross pollination always produces better crops. The way JT does it is for all resources to be leveraged on and together the businesses in the same industry will grow. By changing one industry at a time, it not only increases the income and the economy, it changes the entire socioeconomic landscape of the entire nation. Talk about ripple effects!
SUE TiONG'S JOURNEY WITH JT FOXX's #FAMILYFIRST
Personally, my first one-to-one session with JT was on his birthday Dec 4, 2015. I first saw him on stage on October 2015 sharing the stage with Robert Kiyosaki.
The reason I signed up for his workshop was because my husband's business was taking him away from family time and I was not very happy about it. We officially became coaching students on Dec 4, 2015 and have never looked back. Our businesses have grown to great heights that we would not even have dared to dream should it not be for JT Foxx's mind-changing coaching.
When we were still thinking about single digit millions back then, now we are talking about multi-million dollar deals across the globe. The numbers and the digits are just jumping off the screen and we are having fun with them. Say what you want about the man but I tell you this, if not for JT Foxx, both my husband and I would not even have achieved this much with our businesses in such a short span of time.
BEING SELF-EMPLOYED vs A TRUE BUSINESS OWNER
When I first saw JT speak on stage, the line that got me was when JT said: "You have to work on your business, NOT In your business".
You spend 90% of your time doing the 10% of the things that really matters that makes you money in your business.
Now that is the essence of a business owner. If we slog and work hard and trade time for money, we are pretty much still an employee, albeit self-employed. And THE FIVE PEOPLE YOU SPEND THE MOST TIME WITH matters, that is why he surrounds himself with successful people like Sir Richard Branson.
To be a true business owner, we have to not only learn to let go, but ensure that a system is in place for the business to run itself in our absence. That is how JT Foxx can own over 50 companies from all over the world. He walks the talk and he practices what he preaches.
There are no regrets for having invested my time and effort into my business and choosing to stay loyal to the JT Foxx network. The man himself is the real deal.
PARTNER OR SPOUSE "PROBLEM"
What if your spouse doesn't agree to it? I dragged my husband along and the rest they say, is history. Now my husband's business has also grown exponentially and my businesses are simply off the roof, with new businesses and new ventures and collaborations happening as I am typing this. We never dared to dream in multi-million dollar currencies before, we are truly grateful for the global business network that JT Foxx has built for us to leverage and grow.
All these are happening internationally, yes, our businesses are growing, on a global scale.
Before we met JT Foxx, we thought we will be comfortable with only 'enough' and stay local.
After we met JT Foxx, we owe it to the world to push ourselves to our highest potential and grow our businesses to its maximum capacity.
What have Sue Tiong gained from JT Foxx? (If That is Still Not Obvious by Now)
I am grateful for the branding opportunities JT has provided us with time to speak on global stages. I have spoken on stage in front of 3000 people and shared the stage with Randi Zuckerberg and Nelson Mandela's grandson, Olympic Gold medalists, celebrities and powerful multi-millionaires and tycoons.
Never in my wildest dream I would have thought my speech would get a standing ovation from over a thousand people in my journey to be a global speaker.
I am the proud representative from Malaysia to speak at the Tycoons of Wealth in South Africa.
The different countries and cultures are just coming together to unite under one organisation and that in itself is just amazing, thank you JT Foxx for bridging the gap where business owners and entrepreneurs around the world overlook their differences to collaborate and in turn promoting world peace. I hereby nominate JT to win the Nobel Peace Prize for such an exemplary piece of work!
BRUSHING SHOULDERS WITH THE STARS - 50 Cent and JOHN TRAVOLTA! (gasp)
One of my most memorable moments was when John Travolta spoke to me when a star-struck me took a picture with him. I honestly forgot what he said because it felt so surreal.
Thanks to JT Foxx for sharing the stage with us and for sportingly inviting John Travolta to sing a duet with the female audience. Man, that was a duet to remember.
... BUT MY KIDS ARE STILL SMALL (OR BIG OR STILL AT HOME)
Now that is one excuse which I was also guilty of at one time.
I used my children as an excuse to not take much action until my coach shook me and said Children Should be the REASON you work hard, NOT an excuse for inaction. Thank you JT Foxx for bringing Coach Cherie Eilertsen into my life. Thank you for the many coaches Les Evans, Joey Falcone, Reggie Bates, Kevin France, to name a few whom I have had the privilege of being coached by. Each and every piece of advice was taken and implemented to great results in my businesses.
The ripple effect is endless!
All it takes is just a single person to change your life.
And for Sue Tiong, that person is JT Foxx.
With Gratitude, Sue Tiong, CS Lee (Sue's hubby) and our two little ones and many others touched by us. Results Don't Lie. We are living the results each and every day. Thank you JT Foxx.
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It has been a wondrous journey in life and business so far and I am really grateful for everyone whom I have met. ❤️Everyone who comes into my life added some value to it be it as a blessing or a lesson, ✍I've had my fair share of teachable moments and have broken through some old programming and beliefs, even more so after I met Coach Cherie Eilertsen some 15 months ago. ❤️I've never looked back since. Thank you #PowerCoachCherie and everyone who touched my life in one way or another. Thanks to her, and also my own determination to make it work, 💜
I have jumped out of the airplane (literally in Nov 2016 from the highest sky dive in the world at 18,000 feet)💛
I realised I have been playing small and safe all along so I did something about it.💙
Cast my doubts aside and took the global stage and now ⭐️I am an international speaker within 6 months of my first ever paid speaking engagement, built a global brand for myself and also for my existing and new clients, suddenly I get international businesses knocking on my door and my greatest wake up call was when my client of five years were "courted" by Frost and Sullivan to win an award,🖤
speaking of business, let's just say I've never dealt with so many spaces in numbers before this, I never thought I'd say this but it's fun to play the numbers game, I've always been a words over numbers person but the steep learning curve as an entrepreneur has actually groomed me to be a very number conscious business owner, $$$
you know your fire is infectious when you get individual entrepreneurs approaching you for collaboration and even coaching, it was a spin-off from my main consultancy business and now I am a business coach to small and medium businesses and consultant to major corporations. ⭐️All this came along in a whirlwind short half a year and still counting when I let go of my crutch and my excuses by quoting my baby wasn't even 1 years old yet and my Son not even 4 yet. It is so easy to cower and hide behind the veil of motherhood and just don't push my own limits and just "be local".
And then Coach Cherie said "DON'T LET your kids be your excuses, make them YOUR REASONS" and now they are 1 and 4 AND they are just fine AND BEST OF ALL I CAN SHOW TO THEM THEIR MAMA is living her life to the fullest and loving them all the same.
Deepest gratitude to everyone including the naysayers, haters and critics, each word just make me stronger so thank you. #Gratitude #SueTiong www.meetsuetiong.com
I always believe in the power of trusting your heart and trusting that each human being has a good heart despite whatever they do or say or how hard they look on the outside.
You see, no matter how a person projects himself/herself, underneath it all, the heart has a little child who usually has fear in his/her heart due to some childhood perception or misunderstanding.
I feel so strongly about it that I apply that to business as well.
Like how a grumpy customer service personnel hides a heart that was hurt since age 5 after losing a close relative or family member or something someone dear said to a 7-year-old that make him/her believe it is truly wrong to be too happy because that will make people jealous so you should never laugh out loud or even smile.
It may seem unimportant because for most people, "what do children know, right?", they will forget it sooner or later. Unfortunately, these seemingly unimportant incidents or even a phrase or belief won't be really forgotten, it is absorbed into the subconscious and affect the entire being and future of this person, it is activated each time a decision is made, on a subconscious level. I am not an expert but I have experienced a shift within myself with a steep learning curve in the past one year in releasing all the 'ghosts of the past' and to release the programming that contains misconceptions of the Truth that has been ingrained in me since I was very young.
For example, my former programming: Up to only recently, I have always believed that Money is Evil. Money is Dirty. You can never be righteous and be rich, not both, you have to be either one. I was so fixed in my belief that I was not even aware it was affecting my very core being and I ended up on the extreme end and ended up being a Robin Hood.
I did many work and explored all possible new knowledge I could gain and in seeking the Truth, I managed to be more aware of whatever is going on inside my heart... now I was thinking with my head for so long I ignored what MY HEART FELT.
Inside there was a little girl who listened to stories from generations before of how hard it was for her ancestors to make it and live to see their children grow up and for babies to die due to the higher mortality rate back in those days and then she deduced that she should feel ashamed to have survived and lived. And another story of how times were so hard the family was so poor they cannot afford to keep many children and need more boys to work the field that her grandfather had to see his father drown his newborn baby sisters, year after year. She was horrified by the stories and deep down she wanted to stay 'loyal' to the dead grandaunts by staying poor because in a child's heart, rationality does not have a room. There are many levels to this higher awareness but that is already one huge example of this matter. Pm me on facebook if you would like to talk to me more about this.
Back to the matters of the heart, I apply the feeling of good faith and always think the best of people especially when I meet new people whenever I expand my network.
You see, not many people are comfortable to meet new people or to explore new places. I know I don't, although I don't show it sometimes. The fear of the unknown and to step out of the familiarity of your comfort zone is daunting even to me. It is with a deep breath and a mantra that I got through that uncomfortable feeling and fear of the unknown: Everyone is good, deep inside, whatever they say or do or how the body language is, the heart is still good, my reaction should be nothing but with compassion and love.
Through this mindfulness practice, I am more aware of how irritation creeps up and I make a conscious effort to feel more neutral by tuning in to compassion and love. Believe it or not, it is that simple. Hard work but simple, says Sue Tiong. That has won me many strong powerful relationships and some 'tough nuts', I crack them with love and sincerity just by watching my heart and not allowing negativity to creep into my heart just by a simple decision.
Is it hard to keep at it? YES. Is it so easy to give up? YES. But I still continue at it and once a grumpy face tries to hide a chuckle, I know LOVE really wins at the end of the day and LOVE always reside in the heart, just covered by so many layers of self-protection from being hurt. We all have some wounds and hurts deep within our hearts that we bury deep inside. Once we acknowledge that we are all the same, relationships will flow more smoothly and true peace really happen from within, not without Love.
Oh yes, Business Relationship is that simple. Heart to heart. If your heart is not at peace, it shows. No one wants to do business with a fidgety person. May everyone find peace within.
~ Sue Tiong
So have I gotten rid of my irrational belief, that Money is Evil, before you ask me for money or beg that I share my fortune with you, please view this video to get your answer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kYw1wCDXDhM
It has been a humbling journey of self-awareness. I have all the healers and amazing support networks that I have the honour to meet and learn from. THANK YOU