Quitting Does Not Mean You are Weak

Quitting Does Not Mean that You Are Weak. It just means you are strong enough to stand up and say No. Sue Tiong.
This is my first blog post for the New Year.
What is Strength? Can you still be strong when you quit? It all depends on the context.
In my part of the world it is already dawn of the New Year of 2018, the sun is rising and yet the rain poured. It has been raining for three days and my kids hardly had any water play time in our family vacation but they are not complaining... Ah the joys of being little human beings. The innocence and how simple they think.
Yes I can. Is saying yes the only way to be strong?
Becoming a parent made me reflect a lot. Why do kids need to rebel and do the complete opposite of what you tell them to do? It is to exert their independence and to find the strength in saying NO.
Teach Kids how to say no And tell them it is okay to quit and walk away.
The #MeToo campaign brought on a lot of confessions and a lot of victims, men and women and girls and boys all stood up and shared.
Every child deserve to be safe. Stop Child Abuse
In September 2017, three unlikely women formed a trio that became the basis of Project Cahaya -means Light in the Malay language. Our target is the youth, especially those who are below age 12. Call them children, call them kids, they are our youth, the light of hope for the future of our world.
Children are the strength of our future
 
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  It all started with a story of a girl. To protect her identity there will be no location and no year. I shall not entertain any queries if it is even me.
Project Cahaya started with the story of a girl
She was only 12 years old when her innocence was taken away by her male relative. She woke up on a school day with the man on TOP of her, having his way with her, in other words, raping her.
Stop, No more!
She ran to the house opposite of where she stays and her female relative told her to get ready to school and brushed off her complaint of the rape, the adults did not know how to handle the situation.
We cannot undo or unsee things
She got to school and confided in her teacher and was sent to the hospital for medical examination which confirmed that sex has indeed occured. The next thing you know, her case was brushed under the carpet. “She’s a slut, it’s her fault”.  Never mind that she’s an underage and it is her first sexual experience.
She’s judged, she’s made to feel that she’s to be blamed for her own rape by the very adult who was supposed to protect her and keep her safe. She’s shamed and labelled a slut. She’s only 12.
Help me stand strong
Project Cahaya aims to provide a safe space for the children to express themselves and learn to trust themselves to heal and to trust the world again. These children are supposed to be protected and yet for some, fate and the adults around them betrayed that very early in their lives.
Stand up for our children, not only your own but the world’s children!
If this makes you feel very uncomfortable, I am sorry. What I am sharing; it is very real. Child abuse happens throughout the world, many suffering in silence. Many with no voice; many don’t even have a choice to say No or walk away.
We are the world, we are the children
https://youtu.be/M9BNoNFKCBI This is some heavy post for a brand new year but while we celebrate it is also apt to remember those who are not as fortunate as we are, if we don’t do anything about it, life goes on and nothing change.
Stop Violence. No means no.
Let’s take a look at the actions taken by females and even males around the world in the last century.
Women learned to fight back and resist
Man still feel that they are superior and further perpetuate the belief for centuries
Is it all muscles and grit and all hard to be strong? Do we need to break the glass ceiling all the time and have our hands and body bleed each time we fight to break the glass ceiling? Not only women but humans in general and the existing discrimination in place. Women, and also the minority, especially in the last 100 years felt a need to emulate men in order to stand up for themselves, however is masculinity the only way to be strong? Is it a battle or a competition to see who is stronger? Why can’t we have mutual respect regardless of who we are?
We even have two men becoming parents together in a beautiful marriage in today’s world. So why fight about what makes us different?
What does strength mean to you? S-T-R-E-N-G-T-H For me it means grace in adversity and the ability to gracefully exit when you want to.
Break Free
Strength is in the power to say No, and Enough, and move on. HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE, may the world be the best that it can ever be in 2018 and beyond. ❤️
This is how I would want to be remembered as: Always with a smile, someone you Can talk to, and you can see the warmth in my eyes and see that I mean every word that I say and I mean every action that I do. ❤️❤️❤️
Photography: Sherine Loh Sook Kuan
Hair: Lovely King
Makeup: My own hands #SueTiong
Dress: Jennice Choo Mobile Tailor
All pictures and photographs are credited to Pixabay and my personal collection.

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