I always believe in the power of trusting your heart and trusting that each human being has a good heart despite whatever they do or say or how hard they look on the outside.
You see, no matter how a person projects himself/herself, underneath it all, the heart has a little child who usually has fear in his/her heart due to some childhood perception or misunderstanding.
I feel so strongly about it that I apply that to business as well.
Like how a grumpy customer service personnel hides a heart that was hurt since age 5 after losing a close relative or family member or something someone dear said to a 7-year-old that make him/her believe it is truly wrong to be too happy because that will make people jealous so you should never laugh out loud or even smile.
It may seem unimportant because for most people, "what do children know, right?", they will forget it sooner or later. Unfortunately, these seemingly unimportant incidents or even a phrase or belief won't be really forgotten, it is absorbed into the subconscious and affect the entire being and future of this person, it is activated each time a decision is made, on a subconscious level. I am not an expert but I have experienced a shift within myself with a steep learning curve in the past one year in releasing all the 'ghosts of the past' and to release the programming that contains misconceptions of the Truth that has been ingrained in me since I was very young.
For example, my former programming: Up to only recently, I have always believed that Money is Evil. Money is Dirty. You can never be righteous and be rich, not both, you have to be either one. I was so fixed in my belief that I was not even aware it was affecting my very core being and I ended up on the extreme end and ended up being a Robin Hood.
I did many work and explored all possible new knowledge I could gain and in seeking the Truth, I managed to be more aware of whatever is going on inside my heart... now I was thinking with my head for so long I ignored what MY HEART FELT.
Inside there was a little girl who listened to stories from generations before of how hard it was for her ancestors to make it and live to see their children grow up and for babies to die due to the higher mortality rate back in those days and then she deduced that she should feel ashamed to have survived and lived. And another story of how times were so hard the family was so poor they cannot afford to keep many children and need more boys to work the field that her grandfather had to see his father drown his newborn baby sisters, year after year. She was horrified by the stories and deep down she wanted to stay 'loyal' to the dead grandaunts by staying poor because in a child's heart, rationality does not have a room. There are many levels to this higher awareness but that is already one huge example of this matter. Pm me on facebook if you would like to talk to me more about this.
Back to the matters of the heart, I apply the feeling of good faith and always think the best of people especially when I meet new people whenever I expand my network.
You see, not many people are comfortable to meet new people or to explore new places. I know I don't, although I don't show it sometimes. The fear of the unknown and to step out of the familiarity of your comfort zone is daunting even to me. It is with a deep breath and a mantra that I got through that uncomfortable feeling and fear of the unknown: Everyone is good, deep inside, whatever they say or do or how the body language is, the heart is still good, my reaction should be nothing but with compassion and love.
Through this mindfulness practice, I am more aware of how irritation creeps up and I make a conscious effort to feel more neutral by tuning in to compassion and love. Believe it or not, it is that simple. Hard work but simple, says Sue Tiong. That has won me many strong powerful relationships and some 'tough nuts', I crack them with love and sincerity just by watching my heart and not allowing negativity to creep into my heart just by a simple decision.
Is it hard to keep at it? YES. Is it so easy to give up? YES. But I still continue at it and once a grumpy face tries to hide a chuckle, I know LOVE really wins at the end of the day and LOVE always reside in the heart, just covered by so many layers of self-protection from being hurt. We all have some wounds and hurts deep within our hearts that we bury deep inside. Once we acknowledge that we are all the same, relationships will flow more smoothly and true peace really happen from within, not without Love.
Oh yes, Business Relationship is that simple. Heart to heart. If your heart is not at peace, it shows. No one wants to do business with a fidgety person. May everyone find peace within.
~ Sue Tiong
So have I gotten rid of my irrational belief, that Money is Evil, before you ask me for money or beg that I share my fortune with you, please view this video to get your answer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kYw1wCDXDhM
It has been a humbling journey of self-awareness. I have all the healers and amazing support networks that I have the honour to meet and learn from. THANK YOU