I met a wonderful family tonight over dinner. I was drawn to the 17-year-old daughter and her 16-year-old brother. They are self-assured and well-mannered teenagers and after speaking to them for about 10 minutes I just felt compelled to ask their mother seated across the table from me about how her parenting style was for nearly 18 years as I was impressed by her teenaged children. The mother then asked me to ask her daughter to explain and she will correct her if her daughter said it wrong. Basically it can be summed up to three principles;
1. Don't sweat over academic, don't force it,
2. let kids be kids and let them play, even better play with them and learn their games, and
3. best to let the children learn from their own mistakes.
The daughter is a high achiever, very self initiated and just completed a summer programme in Cambridge, selected from the cream of the crop, and she narrated to me how her mother let her take responsibility for her own mistake from as young as age 7 when she forgot to bring colour pencils to an Art test, instead of rushing home which was only 2 minutes away from school, the mother refused to send over colour pencils to her girl as it was only a seven-year-old test, and it was really a lesson learned as after that it became a habit for the girl to be responsible for her own stuff to bring to school.
This is the cool mom who is strict yet caring and playful and fun at the same time. She will drive her son to catch Pokemon and introduced him to the original Pokemon game which she claims is more fun and then her son chimed in and said even his friend called up to ask his mom who has read all the walk through online on how to overcome a certain level on their games, from what I can see, the two teenagers held their mother in high regard, that is my goal to achieve 15 years from now when my kids are 18 and 15 respectively, to raise them into confident, self-assured and well-mannered happy humans. I am truly inspired, and I can't share all the stories here publicly but the essence is here.
Peace begins from home. Peace brings happiness. The art of peace is teaching humans to look within instead of seeking peace and joy externally.
Well, yesterday I wrote this on my Facebook page:
Today I pushed the limit again and conquered my Fear of speaking to people whom I perceive are better than me, you see my audience are business people and entrepreneurs and I consider myself a baby in business. Who am I to teach or add value to these people who are mostly earning more than me? Anyway, I shared what I could and I got positive reviews just for being who I really am. I feel honoured and humbled at the same time. Thank you so much to World's No 1 Wealth Coach #JTFoxx for bringing My Beloved Coach Cherie Eilertsen for her unending support and rallying me all the way since we started our coaching relationship this year, it has been a good six months and she bowled me over again and again, each call just got better and better I ran out of words to describe the impact this powerful lady has brought to my life as a businesswoman! And also a big thanks for Mr Yap Keong Foon of Business Connection Hub www.fb.com/bchmalaysia for inviting me to speak and a pat to my own shoulder for accepting the invite and bite the bullet and do it anyway and to my long time friend and new biz partner Mei for her secret agent deftness in getting things done on the back end and last but not least to my darling husband CS Lee, the father of our two kids, for his sleepless nights helping me with the music editing and slides for my presentation, what would I do without all your love and support, it has been a great 2016 so far and there are 3 months and 2 weeks more to go!!! Let's make this year the best year yet!!! #allpumpedup #suetiong #motivation
Now that the immense relief has washed over, and 24 hours have passed since the event it is a good time for reflection. It has indeed been an eventful and fruitful 2016 so far and it will only get better from now on. Believe it shall and it will.
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I am so grateful for all that you have done all these years.
If I am to die anytime now I will die with no regrets because I have the best man to be my husband, one who truly loves me for who I really am without trying to change me (that much). You always want the best for me and for us, I know.
You make me a better person than when we first met and you truly really understand me inside out, you literally understand the mechanics of how I function and as different as we both are, you being quiet and I the talkative one, we complement each other so well we make a good team in this marriage and as parents to our little ones.
It is amazing how we have pulled through after all these years but I just want to let you know how much our love had grown and how much bigger my heart is now as the love has evolved beyond romantic love there is no word to describe the feelings I have for you now. My heart is finally at peace and that is thanks to the love and support I get from you, unconditionally and without expecting anything in return. You have made me a more giving person by giving all you have to me and for our children and for us.
Thank you for believing in us and thank you for deciding to put your time and effort and heart into all the investment into our little family and most of all for loving me as your other half. I love you, my husband. Thank you.
Forever your wife, Sue
Sept 3, 2016
When you come to a certain point in life where others perceive that you have reached a certain status higher than theirs, you make suddenly get cold stares from formerly close friends, snide remarks or even outright jealousy thrown at your direction. So what gives?
We cannot control what others think and how they react so take this with a pinch of salt and learn to leave some of these negative people behind. Don't fall into the trap where you are pulled back down by these people.
I feel that this quote is apt to know what we should adopt in this situation.
"You have to remember something: EVERYBODY PITIES THE WEAK, JEALOUSY YOU HAVE TO EARN" ~ Arnold Schwarzenegger
The top picture is of the collage of pictures of JT Foxx the World's No 1 Wealth Coach and of me and my husband when we first signed up to be part of the JT Foxx #FamilyFirst on Dec 4, 2015.The other picture at the top is of the vision board which my husband CS Lee has created one Friday morning (today Sept 2, 2016), and just seeing it brought so much meaning and emotion to the both of us. Read on....
You know you can sleep and feel safe and protected and truly feel very much loved when you have a roof over your head and a dry bed
to sleep at night, and your man comes home to you and your kids at the end of each day if he can help it because you know a man has gotta work.
My man is a man of few words but when it matters he talks, oh how precious are the words spoken on those rare occasions when I hear his voice it is like music to my ears. We are the most unlikely couple as we are totally polar opposites in terms of our mannerisms and behaviours but we share the same values in love and in life especially on parenting and family (extended family) and oh well you get what I mean when I say values like honesty and integrity, being hands on parents, remembering to nurture and provide water and nourishment to the plants of love in our heart and work on our marriage, that kind of stuff.
With a son who just barely grew out of his toddlerhood and a baby girl, being hands on parents means our evenings are reduced to very limited family time, let alone couple time but we make do and we scrap by with whatever time and minutes we can get with the faith that our trust in each other and just hang in there and hey, our tolerance level and our patience have really stretched and known new definitions having had the practice of dealing with two small kids we are almost like automatons day in day out.
Then this morning I woke up when our baby girl needed her feeding and then we walked down the stairs and saw this newly updated vision board. He woke up at 5am to do his mindfeeding (to nourish the mind to grow as a better human) and lo and behold two hours later the picture above has been created.
Sept 2, 2016, one month shy of my birthday, I got a very touching vision of my man speaking to me his deepest aspirations and vision in life and for our family and his commitment to be a man by being a good father. He chose five quotes that spoke the depths of his heart and soul and shared them with me. I choked back the emotions and got on with our day as we needed to rush to meet the World's No 1 Wealth Coach JT Foxx in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia so off we ushered in the kids into the car.
We got this vision board idea from a very inspiring session with the ever amazing Coach Cherie Eilertsen who is one of the top coaches in the JT Foxx Organization. She is an exemplary businesswoman, she is a powerhouse, yet she remained grounded by being a good daughter, mother, firmly rooted in her religious beliefs and practices and truly living her life to the fullest as a successful woman while helping so many others to realize their fullest potential, including me, Sue Tiong, I am proud to be one of her students. Her sharing on how she had a vision board for her two children when growing up and the family sitting down together every week to work on their visions left a very deep impression on me and the first thing I did was to order a white board for me and hubby first as our kids are still small. You can google more about this exemplary vision of a woman Cherie Eilertsen from South Africa. I would not have met her if not for the JT Foxx Org. So THANK YOU JT Foxx!
Yes, JT Foxx is a business coach, owner of more than 50 businesses globally, he is the real deal and his global network of businesses and people in his network provided so much support via the power of connection and the pool of resources you gain from being part of the family #FamilyFirst is amazing. It is beyond amazing! Words cannot even start to describe the transformational change that happened to me and my husband and to a certain degree to the people around us.
Not only our paradigm shift has happened by discarding totally irrelevant old mindsets that were blocking our progress, both me and my husband have felt like we have improved by leaps and bounds, the 'we' this year is different from the 'we' last year.
Our businesses thrive and you can say it exploded a few times in a good way. The domino effect of the power of the speed of implementation as professed by JT Foxx the man himself has served us well in our decision making process which is: What is the worst thing that can happen. Can you live with that? If yes then decide. 5..4..3..2..1. Decide.
We never looked at a menu at a restaurant for longer than 5 minutes now, thanks to that, and also because we have two little ones and everything needs to be fast so a business coach's principle has served us well as parents. Haha.
Besides that, our time management skills have greatly improved as well and boy that really helps when you need to be everywhere in business with kids and with your spouse and your friends and family.
By being better businesspeople, we have inadvertently become better human beings. Our marriage thrives too and in a blur of sleepless nights with sick kids and a newborn at one point (thank God for sleep training and sleeping through the night) and now that we look back, our connection as husband and wife is stronger than ever and when I see my husband's vision board this morning, that was when I felt like kissing the ground and give Thanks and I am truly grateful life after meeting JT Foxx has been a real adventure, with challenges, achievements and great experiences and growth, and it has not even been a full year yet!!!
I know his branding ain't about building up couple relationships but for those of you who are scared to venture out into a business just because you fear you won't get the support from your partner, choose to go to JT Foxx. Www.meetjtfoxx.com or click on the picture below. You can pay for one person and be entitled to bring a partner (ideally a biz partner) and don't fret if your partner refuses to attend on the first day because mine didn't too... on Dec 4, 2015, I finally managed to convince hubby to attend Day 2 of JT Foxx live and the rest, they say is history.
How much have I gained since I joined JT? Have I gotten back the money I invested? Yes, yes and yes many folds and many times over. And the returns are beyond money, the ripple effect extends beyond monetary gains!!! You know it has given me so much value that includes Joy, new friendships and stronger network, strengthened faith and confidence and JT truly has a heart of gold underneath all that power suit persona and I am one of the privileged ones to have witnessed that. Am I paid to write this? No. The trigger was my husband's vision board this morning and it has only been a few hours my heart is telling me to write this and post it anyway.
I love you even more my darling husband for growing together with me, growing old together and growing as a person and growing our businesses separately with each other side by side and being partners in parenting, and for believing in me when I told you to meet JT Foxx on Dec 4, 2015 before the two days ended. It was a big risk that I took and it paid off. You said yes to it.
That was the best decision you have ever made besides choosing to marry me of course. *wink*
So Thank You JT Foxx for doing all that you do!!! Keep touching more lives and keep changing lives and even countries everywhere you go.
So with a smile and a wave I shall say: "Bye Bye Haters" and I choose to focus on what truly matters and indeed life from now on will only be better and better!
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I am technically impaired believe it or not, this website is so bare I don't even have a follow me on Twitter or Facebook buttons but you can look me up @SueTiong www.fb.com/suetiongofficial